Firstly, I have adhd problems ok I dont remember my points and I can’t articulate my feelings into logical thinking therefore I need support with my responses
He told me to take my time and figure out what’s on my mind, and with the help of you guys from previous posts I told him this;
I’m kinda getting the hint we’re going down. You’re moving goal pots and it’s no longer romantic transition like I said yday, there is a difference in putting our money in one pot and, difference in treating it separately. And I get your point on why you don’t wanna do it shared but this is just a sign that it’s going down, you don’t wanna take that risk. Making a fresh start with a positive mind in a new house is an option or treating like it can go down is an option, they’re all risks. Its all transactional at this point, like we don’t even earn the same amount for you to ask for halves and it defeats the purpose why I wanted to work in the first place, and you seeing it fit to go halves because I asked a hand in the house then gives me the right to ask for halves in what you’re earning if we go with your logic. Like it’s becoming all transactional, just shows me you got one leg out already since you said you have to manage risks and that’s what you’re getting ready for.
It’s up to you at this point, I can’t be romantic with you coz that’s what you want, you wanna act like we’re in a loving marriage but I’m just agreeing with whatever option I have, but all this is making it difficult to keep a romantic relationship even if there isn’t an actual problem between us, it’s foreseeing whats gonna come from your goals that puts me in a withdrawal stage. I don’t know if its making sense.
He said; How can you say since im earning more i should put more. Hows that equal? I used this example so many times everyone’s blessed differently and thats why its a shared 50/50. Everyone does it that way unless agreed before hand
Or someone gets the rent other person gets utilities. But its never you earn more so you pay more. Or the fact you said your doing house work so you get half of my earning again where is the logic lol. You’re not working but doing house work. Think of it as contribution to rent and utilities then not entitlement for wages. See and if you dont feel romantic about us that means you’re gonna withdraw like you did now. Which shows me right to feel risky like a RS wont last when theres no love. And its you right now starting this not me.