Should I tell the police?

[MummyofoneT]

I split up with my ex years ago, he's been a narcissistic nightmare ever since & we have a daughter together. A few weeks ago he sent some WhatsApp messages pretending to be his friend, this friend actually stalked me for a while and my ex knows this as he asked him to stop. The messages said that he had seen my current boyfriends car on my drive, he described the car and plate and what he looked like. He then proceeded to tell me my boyfriends is cheating on me with someone he knows. The whole thing was really upsetting as even though I don't believe him it made me feel like the house was being watched as he described what he looked like and his car.

I'm taking my ex to court as he refuses to communicate with me about basic arrangements for our daughter in the holidays, we do have a routine in term time though. My daughter is happy spending time with him and I don't want this to change really, it's just me he hates.

I don't want to escalate things but this was ridiculous. He has sent me other abusive messages in the past before he decided to ignore me forever.

Do you think I should tell the police?

Yes, report it. Someone - either your ex or his friend is watching your house &, in telling you so, is giving you a veiled threat. It's stalking & creepy. If you tell the police now you have evidence should the stalking escalate.

Edited to add: It's probably related to you taking him to court. He's trying to rattle you.

Thank you, it was actually before I told him I was taking him to court! He's just so bitter and toxic sadly.

Report it. You cannot appeal to their good sense because they are clouded by rage, and they only respond to authority they take seriously. So, yes, report it to the police. And go to court if you can afford it.

Yes report and keep a record/screenshots of everything he sends you

Feel free to report to police.

I would also not hold back on shaming him doing this to his parents or other family members.

Thank you! x