I apologise in advance if this is long I will try to be as to the point as I can.
my ex husband and I split roughly 3 years ago after 13 years together and 2 children 10-boy 13-girl. I wanted to leave the relationship due to extreme financial and coercive abuse but I was stuck as his parents owned our home and I was a SAHM who had had all my savings drained with nowhere to go. Eventually he had an affair with a friend of mine kicked the kids and I out, and moved her in. The 2 yrs after that she had me blocked on everything and he continued to be abusive trying to control me financially and sending me abusive messages, bullying me at pick up. After about 2 yrs the gf asked me to meet her for a chat where I was able to provide evidence of the abuse and let her know whilst she was living in our former family home the kids and I were chucked in a hostel. She apparently had no idea, although I question that. I also told her all abuse was being documented. Authorities knew I was meeting with her and if any further abuse happens it will be documented on and acted upon. Thankfully it stopped.
also worth mentioning that by surprise I met my new partner very quickly after the break up We have had a baby of our own and my ex made my pregnancy hell with the above types of abuse. But since having my baby, it has stopped completely. I think the warning of consequence paid off.
however since then the gf has been messaging me say, once a week? The first time she messaged me I responded because I felt bad for her. She was upset because of some unflattering photos at an event and we all know how that feels so I took pity and comforted her. Since then she has tried to make conversation, sent photos of things she is doing and asked to meet up. She is extremely eager to be my friend to a point it feels unsettling. She is also buying my teenage daughter lavish gifts and things she loves to the point even my daughter is like,hmmmm something is up.
I have also noticed friends and work colleges of the gf popping up on my socials which leads me to believe I’m obviously a topic of discussion.
the new gf has also started extremely photoshopping herself into an entirely different person on her socials (I don’t really look I just see her photos of her or my ex contact me) friends have pointed out her face online is resembling mine even though she looks nothing like me in real life.
as mentioned, before the affair this girl was a friend of mine, we weren’t overly close because she often sadly admitted jealously of me, she loved my home, my style, my confidence. One night stands out when she turned up at mine to go out and got upset because she felt rubbish next to me. It was very awkward and not a good feeling for me either. This jealous behavior ultimately lead me to keep her at arms length but she never seemed nasty.
I don’t know what else this woman wants from me. She’s with my ex, she lives in my old house, I leave them alone and don’t interfere and have moved on with my own life.
her persistence to be my friends and her friends watching my socials is making me feel uneasy. I have no evidence to prove she has any malicious intentions but my gut feeling is feeling afraid. I don’t think she would physically hurt me but I feel like she may do something. I just don’t know what.
i haven’t voiced this to anyone accept my partner and friends but my 13 yr old has now limited her own contact with her dad because she to feels off.
I know blocking her and even her associates would be the answer, but I fear doing that could actually make things worse.
has anyone dealt with this before?! I feel so alone and when I try to talk about it with friends I feel like I’m coming off as crazy, not that they have made me feel that way but I don’t know it all just seems a bit far fetched!