Partner one and done

[Secretmidlander]

Can’t get my head around the idea I’m typing this.

Partner has decided he only wants one child with me. I’m heartbroken as I’ve always wanted more and our plan was to try for two. I (34) am a few weeks pregnant. He broke the news before we found out.

For context, he recently had a major health scare which has changed his view. I don’t blame him at all but I am really struggling to get my head around it, especially as he has two older ones from a previous relationship. Before anyone suggests either: he’s adamant he will not change his mind and I believe him. I will not force anything or trick anyone.

I don’t know if I could face termination so I’m not sure why I’m posting really. I would just like some perspective and to feel less alone.

Thank you for reading.

How old is he? Three kids is a huge responsibility, even without the health scare. Very hard for you though.

Is the baby you are currently pregnant with your first child?

So are you pregnant with your first child or second?

Yes don’t understand @Secretmidlander is this your first or second ?
If it’s your second he can fuck off to the far side of fuck and fuck off some more ..
Because it takes two to make a baby and if he was adamant about no more - then should have protected his own fertility with the snip or at least a condom …

I’m really sorry you feel so alone. I don’t quite understand the situation but you cannot be made to have a termination. Hang on in there.

I think it’s the inherent problem with being with someone who has multiple children already. They want more in theory when in the first flushes of love but then reality steps in especially when they get further away from the baby , child rearing stages with their older kids

If you’re already pg with number 2, then it really doesn’t matter what he wants… it’s too late.

Wait you couldn’t face termination? So he’s decided he only wants one kid with you AFTER he made a second baby with you?

Absolutely fucking not! He cannot expect you to abort a much wanted second pregnancy because he changed his mind but took no steps to prevent pregnancy or changed his mind too late!

A lot of men don't think they even want one! Things change once the kid is here and he plays with it, realises what it might be missing out on etc. Really quite surprised you've only just found this out though!