I started seeing a guy who lives 3 hours away. We talk for hours on the phone every day and text. He would either travel down or I’ll travel up to him every other week. We’ve been on holidays together. Met each others kids. I truly love the man. But throughout 2025 we have only seen eachother 4 times, I get more effort could have been made on both sides, but I still thought we were locked in. We were never labelled as bf/gf. He was saying he wants to see me more. But come the weekends things got in the way either my end or his. Just over a week ago I found a picture on his socials, and he came clean and said he been sleeping with this woman for a year. He said men got needs. And he can’t always see me because I’m too far away. And she lives local. We are still continuing talking and texting all day since I found out. I feel heartbroken. But he is telling me he isn’t going no where. He still wants to continue with me, says he cares for me, he doesn’t want me being upset as it makes him sad also, but the weeks or months in between us seeing eachother, he finds hard to be alone, so seeks with this other woman. How can you have without labels relationship with two people? I told him he will have to take our relationship serious as he doesn’t want to lose me, and he would have to bin her off. But he isn’t willing to do that. I don’t want to walk away, I know he technically cheated and lied for a year, but we wasn’t a couple, he is 3 hours away, we have hardly seen each other this year, but I’m hurting like crazy. I haven’t ate for over a week, I’m barely sleeping, got no interest in doing anything and just isolating my self.
how do we make this work?
We both aren’t willing to pack up our life and move 3 hours away to be with eachother?
do we continue and I act like this woman don’t exist? But how can I not? It’s constantly on my mind.
I don't want to share him.
what do we do?
any advice or help would be great. I don’t have anyone else to talk to.