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Move away or stay put.

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Silvernutmeg70 · 16/09/2025 16:40

I'm divorced with two adult children and live in the southeast of England. I work remotely from home. My youngest is about to go off to uni up north and my eldest plans to also move up north once he has finished some training and hopefully secured a degree apprenticeship.

I have been seeing a man in a nearby town (also divorced with two children still at school) for 6.5 years but he doesn't want to sell his house and buy a bigger house to accommodate all of us/merge our families. He's suggested I sell my house and he helps me buy one near him in his (expensive) town (he's quite well off), but that means still no progress in our relationship.

The other choice I have is to move back to my home town where my parents still live, (elderly and could do with someone close by), and my sister is probably going to move back to with her children as her husband has left her). I hate my current house and town where I live (sad memories of marriage break-down, etc.).

I put my house on the market expecting it to take ages to sell as the housing market is slow at the moment, but it sold instantly for the full asking price. My entire family, including children, want me to move back up north and that was my original leaning, but I would also miss my boyfriend, however I'm not sure he'll ever want to commit fully and I don't want to be stuck on my own near him forever, I'd rather live on my own near family, if that makes sense. I worry that whatever option I choose, I'd regret it. Any advice?

OP posts:
Fidgety31 · 16/09/2025 16:43

Similar situation and I wil be moving home . Boyfriend non commital after all these years - that’s not going to change . You’ll always be at arms length .
cut your losses and be free for the possibility of a proper relationship at some point after you’ve moved .

stayathomer · 16/09/2025 16:46

To be honest it sounds like up north would be the better way to go as you have more people and if y or te that worried about the future then it sounds like you’re on different pages. But go with your own gut op x

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