Is my partner cheating?

[Beahappy44]

Hello, i have been with my partner for 20 years we have 3 children. He works down south and i am up north. He cheated on me a few times along time ago now (18 years ago) we are happy with no issues. I know he watches porn etc i am not bothered about that tbh. But a few months ago we were just about to have sex and i noticed a scrape on the shaft of his penis. He said its psoriasis? Mmmm 🥴 sorry i am not a physco girlfriend btw but i have never in 20 years known about psoriasis !!!! At first i thought maybe ? we went to have sex and he couldn't ejaculate this brought back memories of when i did catch him cheating he couldn't ejaculate then as most probably getting sex else wear i remember a scrape then and him saying “psorisis” . Its a bad gut feeling i have. Funny a week later the “psoriasis” had cleared up. Tell me i am bad or follow my gut?xx

Of course you aren't " bad" if you suspect your partner of cheating, especially given he has cheated before.
If he is a porn watcher he obviously seperates physical sex from sex as an emotional attachment . I would suggest him working away from home would give him a lot of opportunity for having sex outside his marriage with you.
You either trust him or you don't and given his track record of cheating and the type of man he is I would err on the side of not trusting.

As someone that’s recently been cheated on I do believe in the gut feeling but I also know that when you have been hurt by someone (cheated on) that gut feeling can be wrong at times.

If he watches porn are you sure it’s not a friction burn from his hand from death grip? That would also explain why he couldn’t ejaculate naturally?

@Beahappy44 couldn’t say really as it could be a skin condition. My partner had lichen sclerosus that we both wondered if it was a flare up of something nasty from previous relationships (we’ve been together 10 years quite happily).

He had to have swabs done and several treatments but in the end needed more extensive treatment due to the increased risk of cancer.

Agree, with you. I think he has probably always done it tbh. He is 5 hours away from me so i would never know. We don't share bank accounts etc. i think knowing him it would be very casual maybe even something seedy as he couldn't be bothered with another relationship, so defiantly more casual.
it definitely isn't a skin condition it wasnt red, inflamed or ever sore it was a scrape right at the top of his shaft towards his stomach (if that makes sense)