I’m lost

[8Heartbroken8]

Hi,
Some facts so as not to drip feed!
Together for over 2 years. He has no children and I have three ND children.
Constantly in contact since Day 1. Planning our future together (I thought)

I keep swinging between heartbreak and independence — one moment devastated, the next telling myself I can handle anything.

For a couple of years I genuinely thought I’d found something real. We had the family days, the holidays, the little moments that made me believe “this is it.”

Then, out of nowhere, two weeks ago, a silly misunderstanding that we would have normally worked through I was shut down! I tried to explain, but since then… silence. Ghosted.

Now I’m left wondering if I ever really knew him at all. How do you go from “all in” to nothing overnight?

I feel embarrassed, hurt, and questioning everything. Part of me worries something deeper might be going on for him… but mostly, I’m just stuck asking myself: what do I do now? 💔

Didn’t want to read and run. Sending hugs. U ok?

wot was the fight over? Do u’s often have silly arguments? How r they normally resolved?

Are you in contact with anyone who might be able to shed some light on this? Mutual friend maybe?

This can be a common covert narcist trick, stone walling

We can't decide without knowing what happened

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he had recently been very ill and had gone to hospital (told me when he got home) a few days later, I had three missed calls from a hospital named in both our areas (so covers both) with no voicemail left. I text his neighbour as it was 10pm and I hadn’t heard from him since 3pm and it was unlike him that I hadn’t heard from him and asked the neighbour if his car was there as I was worried as I couldn’t get hold of him, I was worried he could have been back in hospital and they were trying to contact me as next of kin?
the next day (still no contact despite me texting him asking if he was ok and I was worried) he bumped into neighbour and my now ex partner text me saying I was making it up the hospital phone calls. I sent him the screenshot of the missed calls. He says AI told him that wasn’t the number of a hospital but something else (it did say that but if you ring the number it clearly says you’ve been contacted by somebody from x and x hospital) Anyway, he told me not to ring him and not to contact neighbour again making up stories.

I’ve replied below about this just now x

As you will see from what the argument was about, I only had his best friends number but I’ve deleted that a while ago whilst swapping phones and numbers.

Even if I did have contact numbers, after his reaction to me contacting the neighbour I’d be too scared too

Ignore him back. It's easier that you didn't live together.

I've only just started telling family and friends. Didn’t want to talk about it, thinking it was silly as was going to blow over! Since then, my friend went into her message requests and found a message from his “brother” supposedly saying that my boyfriend was a scam artist/ would use me and take all my money and ruin my life. Have tried to contact this person on the social media they have contacted my friend on but I’m blocked and so is she. So I’ve go a family friend to message them but no response as of yet. This message was sent in July but only just discovered frustratingly.

Oh I am. Fully aware that “no response is a response”
I haven’t reached out for about a week and a half but it’s killing me tonight. So many unanswered questions. No idea what was true and if any of it was real right now

So sorry. Seems he might have worn a giant mask and took off when it started to slip. All the promises and playing house and love bombing sounds a little red flaggy.

Hmmm it sounds like you've had a lucky escape OP. His strange and erratic behaviour is a big red flag. Whatever is going on with him, you're best staying well out of it - his ending things over a misunderstanding suggests he was using that as an excuse to end things? Either way, you're best blocking him and moving on with your life.