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Accused of flirting

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Doublebubblegum · 15/09/2025 10:24

At a party on Saturday night - was a get together with a load of families. Couples, kids etc. I was there with DH and the kids. Kids off playing, adults in the kitchen having a few drinks. Nothing wild - just a social get together. We know all the couples there.

I noticed DH being off with me. As always at these sort of parties, we aren't joined at the hip - we'll speak to lots of different people. But he kept giving me dirty looks and then when walking home was not talking to me. I couldn't be bothered with an argument but this morning when we were both up I asked him if he was talking to me now.

He claimed not to know what I was talking about. I said that last night he was really off with me and I don't know why. Then he turned round to me and said I'd been costing up with one of the male guests at the party and flirting with him! He denies giving me dirty looks.

This guy is the husband of a friend of mine. I was chatting to him one on one for maybe 15 mins. I chatted to other men one on one too - everyone does - there's absolutely nothing weird about it. But this particular guy is quite loud and kept laughing really loudly when we were chatting. That's the only thing I can think of that's somehow triggered this weird jealousy. We were just talking about normal stuff and I categorically was not flirting.

Said all this to DH on Sunday morning, and he said he doesn't care anyway. I said that he obviously does, and actually I'm quite hurt that he's accusing me of this when I've done absolutely nothing wrong. He's now not talking to me.

I'm really pissed off with him. How dare he accuse me a flirting, and give me the silent treatment. I'd do the same back (IE silent treatment) but I hate the pettiness of it all. And obviously don't want the kids picking up on any weirdness.

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Arrivederla · 15/09/2025 10:28

Is this typical behaviour from him when he sees you talking to another man?

How is your marriage generally?

Doublebubblegum · 15/09/2025 10:29

No! It's not typical at all.
Our marriage is fine. Not perfect, but fine.

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Pigeonsandgiraffees · 15/09/2025 10:39

Sometimes people accuse others of doing things they themselves are doing.

As it's not typical behaviour from him, I'd have my wits about me. Is this his own guilty conscience talking?

Hopefully not, but be on guard.

Doublebubblegum · 15/09/2025 11:34

I'd be very surprised if he was projecting this because he's been flirting himself. It's almost like he wants to find a reason to be pissed off with me

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