I’ve been married 15 years this year, and we have a 9-year-old DS.
Recently, I’ve noticed myself becoming increasingly resentful towards DH because of the lack of support.
He doesn’t earn enough for me to go part-time, so I work full-time. On top of that, I do all the cooking, cleaning, washing, tidying, school runs, booking afterschool clubs, feeding/looking after our 14-year-old dog (who needs daily treatment), and I even arrange my work lunch break around DS’s school pick-up.
DH works full-time, and beyond that he’ll occasionally walk the dog (if I ask) or do the washing up once in a while, but that’s really it.
Our sex life is non-existent (he can’t anymore), which adds to my frustration. We never have money because the bills and debts swallow everything. We bought a house 5 years ago that needs work, but we can’t afford it and DH shows zero interest in even doing small, low-cost improvements.
He leaves his clothes on the floor, never makes the bed, and never takes charge of anything other than his job. If I raise it with him, there’s a short-lived improvement for about a week, and then it all reverts.
I feel unhappy, stuck, and fed up with the daily grind. I don’t feel I can leave because I don’t want to break DS’s home, but I also don’t want to carry on like this forever.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you move forward? Is there a way to shift things in my marriage or do I just need to accept this is how it is?