I fancy my nextdoor neighbour

[Misty1981]

So I've been single for almost a year now. I've recently moved into a new house and as much as I've tried to stop, I can't get my nextdoor neighbour off my mind. We've only spoken a handful of times, mainly just saying hi so I don't know why I'm feeling this way about him.

I have really bad social anxiety so i have never started a conversation with him etc. I worry that he would never look twice at someone like me, I'm a tiny bit younger than him and I have 3 kids by 2 different dads, plus I'm not the most beautiful/skinny woman in the world. To make it even more awkward, he's the dad of one of my daughters old primary school friends!

Help! I don't know what to do

to be honest it sound like you have presented several reasons to do nothing.
You can't speak and its awks with the mutuals friend

If you have never spoken to him, how do you know if he is nice?

Just keep talking when you get a chance and try and get an impression of his level of interest.

If he literally just says hi to you and never stays for a longer conversation, it doesn’t sound particularly promising though so I wouldn’t make any admissions or get your hopes up yet

it makes me think of that saying .... 'don't shit where you eat' because if you start something with a next door neighbour that then goes pear shaped, it'll be super awkward afterward.
maybe just don't do anything, wait and see if he shows interest. And If it's worth the shitting-where you-eat risk, you'll know because interacting with him will feel natural and not awkward. Don't keep telling yourself you have social anxiety - we all have people we get on better or less well with in the world. It doesn't help to slap labels on - it just makes you more anxious.

We've spoken about a rat situation, where a rat was travelling though our gardens from the nearby stream lol, but never spoken about anything else really. May daughter thinks he's great and she keeps telling me to go for it lol

Remember hes your next door neighbour. This could get very awkward!

I think the saying is don't shit on your own doorstep.
Admire him from afar and do nothing would be my advice.

lol at rats

Are you prepared to move house if it goes wrong?

I'm in the don't shit where you eat camp.

I would say enjoy the crush and just be polite and friendly when you see him!

How recent was the move? You’ve mentioned only really talking about rats, have you chatted about anything else?
I’d probably just focus on yourself right now and if you begin chatting more then see how it goes.

You don’t have to date everyone you have a crush on, how does your daughter know? Hope it’s an adult daughter..