He won't leave

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I've just told him to leave and go stay somewhere for a week.

His behaviour- guilt tripping me and blaming me because I said I thought it was best for our 2 year old not to come to my 6 year old birthday party as I was worried there would be a meltdown between them and wanted my 6 year old have his party about him. He spent the day in a mood and guilt tripping me. Then comes in again today and starts guilt tripping me and twisting things.

I ask him to leave . This is a patten of ongoing behaviour and I can't cope with it.. he said he's not going anywhere and if he goes somewhere for a night he is taking the baby and refusing to leave without him... I threatened calling the police if he took the baby.. he just won't leave me alone. I'm not sure what to do.. I just want him out.. he won't leave me alone.

Do you rent or own?

Whose name is on the tenancy/ deeds/ mortgage?

I own. It's my house.. but I just looked it up and he has parental responsibility of the baby too so that means legally he has the right to take him

Ok that’s good it’s your house and he is not on the deeds/ mortgage.

Do you have family (preferably male ) who could come over and help him on his way?

You could also call women’s aid who might be able to give you some legal advice.

Do not leave the baby for one second.

I dont know the full extent but why did you thibk the little one would have a melt down at the party

Anyone that can come over and help with emptying his stuff out and changing the locks. Don't hand over the baby, he's only threatening that to get his way and staying.
You can ring the police and ask for help getting him out, he's being coercive and won't leave you alone.

Now he's trying to be reasonable and talk about it- I honestly don't know what to do... I have two kids here ... I just want him to go so I have some space to think but I also feel that if I keep pushing to go it will turn nasty very quickly

Call the police and see what they say. At the end of the day it’s your house, you say who is allowed to come in. You have don’t want him there and you’re anticipating it « turning nasty »

Im not surprised you want space.

Talk to a solicitor first thing tomorrow morning. Ask about splitting up and parental responsibility. Does he work?
the house is yours, thats good
does he have family/friends to go to?