My partner played an away rugby game today, the match was 1.5 hrs from our home and he travelled on a coach with the rest of his team.
We had an argument last night which we only resolved this morning after a lot of tears and talking. Before he left he said he would come straight home after his game so that we can enjoy the evening together, and I felt this was important given yesterday evening was not one of our best. Also, I am working tomorrow up until Friday next week so we have very limited time together (I do a mixture of shifts) and some time to be together this evening would have helped us to reconnect.
So, at 17:30 this evening he messaged saying he was on his way back on the coach and they had just stopped at a service station.
he then doesn’t walk through the door until 20 minutes ago and he is very drunk, slurring his words. The drinking can be explained though as I know they usually will have beers on the coach after a game. I asked him why he was so late and he said he doesn’t know, but he has came straight home. When I ask how a 1.5 hour journey took almost four hours, he cannot answer me but insists he came straight home as he promised he would. I am so annoyed because clearly this is a lie and I really cannot stand lies no matter how small or big they are.
I don’t know how to get him to just admit that he’s talking absolute rubbish? It’s the feeling of not being able to express my disappointment because according to him he’s done nothing wrong. How do I know if he’s lying to me? I feel like I’m going insane and being paranoid.