The fear of leaving

[Cherryrainbow]

I've been unhappy with my partner for ages, and whilst he isn't physically abusive he's one of these guys who has to make digs all the time, if he is in a mood everyone knows about it. I am well aware he reads my phone, goes through my handbag etc. Every now and then he threatens to break up with me and kick me out (the house is in his name) and he says this means he will get custody of our daughter because I'd be homeless.
For ages I've felt I couldn't afford to leave him. I have low income, about 15000. After speaking with citizens advice and a few others I am aware once I move in somewhere I can claim universal credit and I've started to look into places of rent, vaguely talking about my circumstances as a relationship breakup and that a guarantor can help cover things whilst I get things settled and get the UC in place.
The plan is to secure a place and then do the actual break up with my partner.
I suppose I'm just looking to vent/get a pep talk cos now I'm actually looking at places and getting a step closer to leaving I'm getting the fear. How will he react? What will he want to do about custody? Will I traumatise my daughter? (My eldest son i think will be upset but ok about it as he doesn't like being around my partner when he's critical etc).
Thanks for reading and any advise or anything much appreciated. X

Fear of how he will react?? , you get you properly in place first, you may need to move out while he's at work, don't tell were you are, talk to uc start the ball rolling, go thought court for parental child care, so its in writing what time he gets with children, it has to suit you too, around your working hours, children's school time table, holidays eg, he will have to agree, so your not bickering over ' who's having ' also he can not just drop out when it doesn't suit him or if he is trying to wind you up, use the email for children do there's a paper trail, don't try and arrange this between yourselves as he might try to control this, if need be block him on all platforms other than email for arrangements for children,

If you do decide to leave when he is out, leave a note of your plans ' children and uc, ' and that arrangements will be made for children in coming days, once your been given advice that is,

Could you elaborate further on why he thinks he will get custody? Is it just the homeless thing.
If he is horrible enough to threaten this could you stay a little longer and try get proof of his behaviour incase hectrys anything unexpected regarding custody