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Online dating

32 replies

AmyJahabee · 11/09/2025 19:10

Hi,
l have been talking to a guy I met online for about 6 weeks. We have been on two lovely dates and I like him and he seem to like me too..
but the issue is he seem to kinda only want to meet once every two weeks.. this is not enough for me as I feel the connection will be difficult to keep going. We have been texting everyday and calls in between.
Here
week 1: he came for our first date to visit.. we arrange a date for two weeks later
week 2: while in communication I said I’m available we can meet earlier than next week. He replied saying “I have something arranged with family”
week 3: no date just chatting on phone and text.
week 4: we had our second date, and concluded to meet in week 5.
week 5: is this current week I message confirming I could come over, he said oh sorry I have to do something with my family (his dad and siblings)
he suggests we meet in week 6 ( next week)
No sex, we only kissed.
should I stop calling and texting and only respond?
should I still consider going on more dates? and remove any emotion and just enjoy the date? keep him as friends but no benefit in terms of physical relationships
I like him but I have a feeling he is dating someone else..
what would you do? Should I move on and stop responding?

OP posts:
HappyToSmile · 12/09/2025 08:06

I would certainly mirror his effort and stop chasing him for dates and see what happens.

Justthethingsthatyoudointhisgarden · 12/09/2025 13:23

I would definitely take a step back. I don't think seeing someone every fortnight is normal. We wanted to take it slow but were meeting up twice a week.

AmyJahabee · 13/09/2025 22:15

He has ended things saying it not the right fit for him. With a text message after messaging me last night been so nice and out of no where today ended it. I want to reply saying we had nothing to end anyway

OP posts:
Mumlaplomb · 13/09/2025 22:20

Sorry to hear that OP. Onwards and upwards for you and at least he’s been honest about it rather than fizzling it out or ghosting.

AmyJahabee · 13/09/2025 22:54

thank you @Mumlaplomb.. I have basically taken no interest in messaging him the last two days while he has been the one to initiate messages and very sweet saying he miss me bla bla.. I was slowly fizzling from him and he could tell..

OP posts:
ChelseaDetective · 13/09/2025 23:11

Irrelevant after update.

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 14/09/2025 09:27

AmyJahabee · 13/09/2025 22:15

He has ended things saying it not the right fit for him. With a text message after messaging me last night been so nice and out of no where today ended it. I want to reply saying we had nothing to end anyway

Edited

Don’t do that, OP. It’s so tempting to try to get the last word/upper hand, but it’s never authentic and will just make you feel smaller.

Block and move on.

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