If your partner used chat GPT

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How would you feel if you found out your partner or someone you are dating had been using chat GPT to respond to your messages? I’m on another group and people are saying they would prefer it or wish their partner would use it to talk to them. I was surprised as I thought the majority of people would find this uncomfortable, some even referred to the guy as a “keeper”. How would you feel about it?

ChatGPT says...

I think it really depends on the context and intention.

If someone is using ChatGPT because they’re lazy, can’t be bothered to engage properly, or are trying to hide their real thoughts, then I’d find it off-putting and even a bit deceptive. When you’re dating or in a relationship, you want to know the real person — not a filtered, AI-generated version of them.

But if they’re using it more like a tool — for example, to help word something they’re struggling to express, to check their tone if they worry about being misunderstood, or even to come up with a fun idea for date night — then I’d be less bothered. Some people aren’t as naturally chatty or articulate, and I can see why they’d find it useful.

For me personally, I’d want transparency. If a partner told me “I used ChatGPT to help me phrase this” rather than pretending every word was theirs, I’d probably be okay with it. It’s the secrecy and lack of authenticity that would make me uncomfortable.

So, I guess I’d say:

• Fine as an occasional tool or helper.

• Not fine as a substitute for genuine communication.

Just to add the person had been dating them for one month if that makes a difference?

Are the other people in the group just bots that you’re talking to?

Of course, it’s bloody weird. If someone doesn’t have enough brain cells to think up their own half of a conversation, no, I would not want to talk to them. Certainly wouldn’t want to date them or find them in any way attractive. 😂

I think the issue with chatGPT is its masking a persons personality. If they’re using it they totally lack authenticity. Slightly different but DH’s ex now uses it to communicate with him (and others) and she sounds like a patronising robot. So insincere.

In dating how can you build a rapport with someone who is only showing you carefully scripted version of themselves? Not for me.

Yeah I mean maybe I could understand using it on an ex so you don’t sound overly emotional or they don’t use anything against you but to someone you’ve just me! Lots of comments calling him “emotionally intelligent” because he thought of using chat GPT

Nah she just sound so patronising, lots of “isn’t it great” and “good job Daddy” really odd - child is teenage. She uses it to speak to school teachers too.

It’s not emotional intelligence though, it’s chatGPT’s artificial emotional intelligence.

I wouldn't like it at all. I want a real partner not some weird AI combination human partner.

People are saying they would 'prefer it'? They'd prefer ChatGPT to talking to their actual partner? I'd have to assume that their partner had the emotional intelligence of a chimp and the linguistic ability of a squirrel if they would 'prefer' talking to what is, in essence, a robot.

Spoke to DH and he doesn't even know what chat GPT is, no wonder he is always saying stupid things to annoy me.

I would ascertain whether he got the idea from South Park and this would greatly inform my opinion.

Yes they did say they would prefer it if their partner used it as he is “crap at messages” so at least the guy realised, the majority of people that commented said it was a good thing.

Someone did mention that I don’t watch it so no idea 🤣

It just makes me think of that lazy rom com trope where the poetic nerd is bullied into writing beautiful verses which the quarterback then sends to the girl they both have romantic feelings for, and passing it off as his own writing. She falls in love with the words, and eventually discovers that it's actually the nerd who wrote the poems and has captured her heart 🤮

I think it’s really weird ..
It’s not real !!

Its like going to Uni and the person does their work with Chatgpt ,they will be failed cos a reason .

That's an automatic GOODBYE for me

I fucking despise ChatGPT for a million and one reasons, so I'd be dumping them pronto.

It’s weird. You may as well skip the middle man and just get a conversation going on ChatGPT.

I think it’s very weird.

I used to see profiles of men on dating apps who had clearly used chatgbt to write their profile. Immediate left swipe.

I’m not surprised someone women said they would like it though if the man was a poor communicator…the bar is in the core of the earth at this point.

🤣🤣

My boyfriend admitted when he told me he loved me he asked chat GPT if it was too early and how to say it. Which made me burst out laughing because his ‘speech’ about how he felt was like a bumbling unposh version of high grant. He kept talking about a hill and he was nearly over the hill or something and I had no idea what he was on about then I twigged and couldn’t stop giggling. It’s kinda been our in-joke since. I wasn’t annoyed I found it quite adorable - and clearly it was useless cos the garbage he was saying made no sense

OP that just sounds odd to be kind here.

If someone is using chatGPT to communicate, then I would question their intent regarding you.

Are they serios about dating? Or just taking the mick out of dating in general and you happen to be one of their joke?

If someone had real intent in dating someone then chatGPT would not even be in close proximity of their thinking. I would seriously stop chatting to this individual and block them as it sounds like they are just making fun of you.

Oh this is encouraging. So if you ask them a question in a conversation, they”ll say, “hang on a minute I’ll check what a robot/ChatGPT would say…”

Sorry I’m not sure if you misunderstood my post this was a post on another group a woman asked how others would feel and everyone said it was a good thing so just wondered if I was the odd one out or really out of touch with dating now.

This sheds new light on the many posts on here (mainly AIBU and Chat, but sometimes Relationships, too) where the OP desperately asks what her partner MEANS when he says [insert quote here]. Valiant and/or puzzled Mumsnetters have been replying "we don't know; can you ask him?" But now it turns out that HE may not know either!