Was he looking at a high end escort profile?

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Hi could I please ask if anyone knows if this type of AI photo appears to look similar to what would be on a high end escort website. I was walking behind my partner late at night as I was putting the baby to bed and saw him looking at a head and neck shot photo of a young attractive woman. She had a professional, clean, seductive alluring look with a side pose and her eyes seductively looking to the camera on a white background. He was scrolling up as I was walking in and the photo itself filled about 80-90% of his screen and there was a blue separator type line the full width of the photo directly below the photo then it was just white beneath and very minimal - no logos, no links but not sure if these would have appeared further down the screen. Although I was standing quite far back and then he jumped and fumbled a bit and left the room. I was looking on chatGPT and they came up with this AI generated photo which looks the exact same format / style (different woman as this is AI generated) I wouldn’t be surprised if he was looking as we have not been intimate for months and he has the money, he spends about 16 hours on his different hobbies each week so he is often out, and know he watches porn and has had previous issues with excessive porn use (although I suppose that doesn’t really suggest much). Here is the AI photo where by the photo style looks very similar although the photo he was looking at maybe only showed her neck and nothing below that but same type of seductive side posed look. Thank you in advance for any replies.

Well even if it isn't an escort what innocent reason could he have for looking at the woman's photo anyway?

He sounds absolutely disgusting. He uses porn so gets his sexual satisfaction from women being violated and abused.

He is out 16 hours a week while you are left looking after the baby?

I honestly don't know why you are with him.

Thank you. Yes you’re right, I am just thinking things through at the moment on how to go about it all as had thoughts separation is probably best for a while.

@Rightandwrong Well even if it isn't an escort what innocent reason could he have for looking at the woman's photo anyway?

So if a husband catches a wife looking at the photo of a young, attractive man, is he entitled to say the same things you are saying now? Should he say that she is disgusting and should he leave her?

He uses porn so gets his sexual satisfaction from women being violated and abused.

You know nothing about the situation. Maybe the guy has a porn addiction. Maybe a mate sent him a picture of a hot girl. You don't know. Why jump to conclusions?

Also, whether someone is OK or not with their partner using porn is a hugely subjective matter. For some people it's like cheating, while other people couldn't care less. OP, how do you feel about this? If you feel strongly on this matter, you should talk to him about it, but it should be based on how YOU feel, not on how some random strangers are implying all women should feel.

Also, not all women doing porn are "violated and abused". There are quite a few women who do things like onlyf* because it pays better than stacking the shelves at Tesco, not because they are being "violated and abused". Note that I am saying nothing about the morality of it, just saying that they aren't all abused, and quite a few do so out of free choice.

the porn issue doesn’t really bother me as know he uses it. It’s more the curiosity of the unusual type of photo he was looking at. As it looked almost professional yet seductive type of look with white background and as he was scrolling down hardly nothing else on the page just white and a blue separator line so was curious about escort use. He has come back from lads holiday with love bite on his chest in the past, carries condoms on nights out - only know as he said how he lent his friend one, have found two blonde bobbles in the house when I’m brunette. As recently not been intimate he has come back from nights out at 5am twice instead of the usually 1am. So no true evidence. It’s hard speaking to him as anything I say I’m always wrong, he will twist it back on me etc or subtly mock me or put me down but that’s mainly in relation to me asking if he will help with housework etc. think main curiosity is whether it’s an escort site but I will never know and I really want say something but also want keep peace whilst I try figure things out too. Thank you for your thoughts.

Sorry to hear that. It sounds to me like the photo itself is the least of the problems.

Carrying condoms on night outs to lend to his friends? I am speechless...

I’m not sure… This sort of stuff (and worse) flashes up on our screens all the time. On our phones, and the computer. I don’t know why… It’s everywhere now! A bit like top-shelf mags when you were a kid. It’s just there. I just ignore it, TBH.

Yrs I think this picture is the very least of your worries. OP I hope you manage to see a way through this because it sounds like Monday to live, and he sounds like a scummy abusive arsehole.

Sorry, just read your last update!
You might be onto something…

Short of actually catching him in the act OP what other evidence could possibly get that he's a cheating, lying, porn addled disgusting man?
Does it matter whether he's using sex workers?

On the escort sites they generally blurr their faces (i know as my soon to be ex partner cheated on me with one if not more escorts

He has come back from lads holiday with love bite on his chest in the past, carries condoms on nights out - only know as he said how he lent his friend one, have found two blonde bobbles in the house when I’m brunette. As recently not been intimate he has come back from nights out at 5am twice instead of the usually 1am.

If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. Or in this case, if it acts like a syphilitic donkey and can't even cover it's own tracks, it's time to get an STD test and leave it.

The effects of porn are well known: that it is addictive, that users move on to view more and more extreme genres to gain a level of satisfaction from it and users often move on to cam girls and other sex workers. Porn affects how users view women and they are incapable of sustaining relationships.

Well OP has said she is happy her partner uses porn. Unfortunately she is now experiencing how life with a porn user pans out.

Hey OP ..
Sorry to hear this too …
Carrying condoms on a night out , I’m not easily shocked at all , but being honest, hearing you say that has shocked me …..

@Rightandwrong The effects of porn are well known: that it is addictive, that users need to use more and more extrme genres to gain a level of satisfaction.from it

Oh, please, you sound like my church-going grandma. What would be the studies confirming these allegedly well-known links??

Porn is NOT recognised as an addiction in manuals like the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). The matter was discussed, but experts ultimately concluded there was no conclusive evidence to consider it an addiction.

There is no doubt that some people can become addicted to porn, but, equally, there is no doubt that there is absolutely less than zero evidence to claim that watching porn will necessarily turn you into a porn addict.

Well OP has said she is happy her partner uses porn. Unfortunately she is now experiencing how life with a porn user pans out.

This is most intellectually dishonest. There is no proof whatsoever of a link between watching porn and cheating your partner with sex workers.

@Rightandwrong , if you want to discuss these topics, create your own thread. Do not peddle unproven, a-scientific nonsense in a thread where the OP is going through a rough time.

You are obviously a porn apologist.

The fact that OP's partner uses porn and used/ uses it to excess is very relevant to his behaviour. So of course porn is relevant to this thread.

I think you will find it is you that started the debate about porn on this thread, not me.

So when you cannot substantiate your claims, you resort to accusations. I see. Goodbye