I've always believed that other people's relationships and marriages often don't make sense from the outside. And I know full darn well the strain young children put on marriage - got my own tensions there...
But I have a friend with twins who I think is figuring out why her partner was divorced after his first child. He doesn't do any childcare. Can't cope. Won't take them out alone. Is impatient with them. Seems depressed.
She works full time, is carrying the full parenting load, and is imploding.
What do you do to help? What the heck can you say?
I'm smugly(?) in a relationship where my husband really does work as a team with me (and I still resent him on occasion!) with only one child. How do I not just make things worse?
I'm really worried for her long term wellbeing.