Tonight I spoke to my ex best friend for the first time in 5 years

[frecklyspeckly]

She disapproved of my dp and it caused a big rift. Last week she turned up on my mum's doorstep saying she wanted to know how we all were and to say hello. I wanted to speak to her again because although she really hurt me with the way she regarded my dp I have missed her enormously.
It was lovely to talk to her again. We used to spend all our time together and we used to have a great laugh together. I am hoping to meet up with her in the summer now. I think 5 years is long enough even though we had a major difference of opinion, and I think life is too short.

Thats it really, I just wanted to post to say I feel really happy tonight that I called her back and that after all this time we still spoke to eachother like it was only yeasterday since we last saw each other

Awwww

Thats great! My bf stopped talking to me about 3 years ago and I don't even know why. He's even my friend on facebook but won't even chat to me on their
Glad you've managed to sort it oue .
Is she ok about your dp now?

there, not their

Errr, well put it this way she knows not to say otherwise or that will be another 5 years! Yes i think so Dalrymps but I think it is that age old prob it was nothing he did to me she didnt like it was the fact I moved away to live with him and left her behind. no reason to tell me this day after wedding day I had made a huge mistake apparently - well time has shown that he was a good 'un, a good dad and husband and very much the right choice. It is very hard about your friend- I hope you at least get the answers you deserve X

This is good to hear OP. Hope you manage to resume your friendship. Similar thing happened to me, but unfortunately my former friend was right - XP wasn't a good match for me at all. Have spoken to her briefly at a couple of social events lately (she invited me to her birthday party to 'bury the hatchet") but still can't quite face meeting up for a, long overdue, chat. Don't want to hear "I told you so" really

I can understand that snotbuster - perhaps she just really cares about you and wont take the moral highground especially if you could ask her not to beforehand, if you meet her again that is?

Thanks - things turned out very badly with XP and still feel very foolish about getting involved with him TBH. That's a good idea. Hope you have a good time with your friend.

Ah, that's nice to hear.
I've lost a couple of good friends over the years, and still miss them.
The first had been a very close friend from age 14. When we were 21 she began seeing a married man whose wife was heavily pregnant. My view was that it was a mistake, but perhaps I made the mistake in telling her that! When I was about 35 I traced her through Friends Reunited and sent a message. She was married (not to same man) with small children, but we didn't remain in contact.
My other 'lost' friend was mislaid when I found her smoking a joint in the kitchen at a party and went all Mary Whitehouse!
I would have really enjoyed seeing these girls at my 40th, alas, twas not to be.
Gosh, I was an uptight cow in my early twenties wasn't I! Or was I - I would probably do/say the same now.

Freckly - I think it may be the same kind of reason he isn't talking to me but can't be sure, he stopped talking to me when I bought a flat with dh... Was totally fine then, nothing
I am just about over it now though, got people in my life that will be there no matter what