Lighthearted- Just seen ex… talk me down?!

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So I’ve just bumped into my ex, first time I’ve seen him since we split around 8 months ago, haven’t spoken since. He looked GORGEOUS. Give me some words of encouragement to NOT break no contact please and thank you😁

Why did you break up ?

Looks are deceptive!

You did no contact for a reason ….. also some man are good for you hole but not for your soul

@fedup078 Honestly I’m not 100% sure. No arguments towards the end, things were good or so I thought but he said he couldn’t carry it on, he was scared of getting hurt so had to end it.

Oh well there you go! It turns out he’s a liar. Ffs. He broke up with you because he was “scared of getting hurt”. I’m calling bullshit. That is NOT why he broke up with you. That is never why men break up with women. So I’m also calling him lazy or cowardly. Or emotionally illiterate. He couldn’t be bothered/didn’t have the balls/didn’t have the self-awareness (or some combination of the three) to tell you the truth. He is an attractive lazy liar.
How was that?

@SandrenaIsMyBloodType Amazing thank you 🤣

I heard he's got the clap

Maybe the woman he left you for wasn’t all she cracked upto be … or is at home waiting for him to come home with a pregnancy test …
he’s probably not single … even if he says he is …

Absolute bullshit! No man ends a relationship with someone they genuinely want to be with because they are scared of "getting hurt".

Most underrated advice/wisdom on here. So true!

He might look good, but if you get too close you'll find he smells of rotting cabbage and his cock is covered in scales.

If he wanted you it wouldn’t have taken 8 months to bump into him. He’s an ex for a reason!
Stay strong and keep NC.

Never a truer word was spoken.

Oh lord. What a wet blanket. A weak way to dump someone. Best off rid of him.

@newfriend05Good for ‘you hole’. 🤢

it wasn’t accidental meeting - he spent all his last money on polishing himself, borrowed clothes from a friend and was secretly waiting for you from early morning. He lost his job and run out of money, surely you wouldn’t want him?
and forgot to add - he is gay that what he meant breaking up.

Yep. Bit crude, but accurate.

He looks good on the surface OP, but clearly he wasn't right for you beyond that.

Some of these replies are great! He has messaged me but I’m not breaking.. definitely not good for the soul.

If he was a creature on David Attenborough David would be saying he had to look good on the outside because he has low mating value. Listen to David!!

On the other hand.....my friend split with her then boyfriend in her late teens (parental pressure as they'd gone out from age 14), didn't see him for 17 years and by a fluky chance happened to bump into him at an event a few miles from home. They've been together about 30 years now, have kids, an amazing relationship, always having fun and are truly happy.

Why did you split? Did you actually get on like a house on fire? or were there loads of red flags?
What would the pros and cons of getting back together look like?

Many people focus on their physical health after a breakup. They have more time on their hands and looking good helps them feel good.

You don't want him, you want the idea of what you believe he is. His physical appearance isn't him, it's just his public persona. Run away. If you weren't thinking about him before the surprise run in, you aren't thinking of him now. Your only obsessed with the "what if."

I heard he follows along with his finger when he reads.
And he can't do basic maths in his head.
Also, he could be taller 😂😂

He stacks the dishwasher haphazardly.

He leaves toothpaste spit in the bathroom sink and shit stains in the toilet bowl.

He gives himself motivational speeches whilst preening his new haircut in the mirror.

His new gf bought his new clothes.

He lies to get himself out of awkward situations.

He’s overdue his check up at the sexual health clinic.