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2015XXX · 08/09/2025 15:22

He's lied, he's cheated, I could go on and on... I know I need to leave. He broke down, blamed it on drugs and asked for help. I know I deserve better - but I don't know how to leave!!!!!!! I am going out of my mind in turmoil. Somehow hes my home and I don't know how to live without him. Many good times/moments/we get on. Some days I am SO strong but right now, I am losing myself by the second. We have a DD together, she's 10. I can't keep living like this.

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Sodthesystem · 08/09/2025 15:34

Sorry to hear you're going through this op.

Sometimes it helps to do things in chunks.
You can physically leave for a start without necessarily entirely breaking things off. You can call it a hiatus.

Phrase it as he needs to go on a personal journey to overcome his drug addiction. And you need space to determine how you feel about everything and if it could ever be forgivable for you.

You can put a pin in some things for now and just work with what you know: you need to leave (or, he does) At least, for now.

In a years time you can, if you want to, revisit your feelings on the matter and take appropriate action.

This leaving probably should be a forever but, that's not set in stone. For now, just do the for now.

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 08/09/2025 17:03

He should leave. Sort himself out. You focus on you and your dd only.

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