Online dating. Mans age red flag?

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Speaking to one guy who said he was age x. I did a bit of goggling...and hes actually 5 years older.
I called him out in it jn a round about way without saying that I googled him. He was kinda.. im as old as the woman I feel etc..
He then admitted his real age and said he wasnt aware if the age on his profile.

Now I know this is not a mistake and may be either to get into a filter bracket or he has low self esteem.
Im trying to decide if its a red or orange flag. We haven't met up yet

Thoughts?

If I had a quid for every man who managed to inexplicably "incorrectly" enter his age on a dating profile, or where it "did it wrong", or where he "can't change it" - or any other of the lame-ass similar bullshit excuses to cover up the real number, I'd have enough to start my own dating website where every man gets a full security screening and background check before being allowed to post his profile. I'd probably also make him do one of those selfie videos where you have to record your head from front and turning side to side as extra validation.

If a man is going to lie about something so basic as their age, then I'd be wondering what else they're lying about. It's pointless lying about age, because at some point it will be found out. It might be he thinks by shaving 5 years off, he might get more women interested! Or he thinks by the time his lie is found out, she'll be so smitten by him, she won't care!!! 🤷

This.

Thing is I reached out to him 1st so he wasnt missing out in my age bracket. I actually put up to 55 so he still would have been in . Think ill throw this one back. Shame as he seemed really funny normal and successful.

He's a lying liar who lies.
He has already shown you that when presented with multiple options, he will take the easy way out and lie.
This is part of a bigger pattern.
Don't do this to yourself.

Red.

1. He chose to lie on his profile,
2. then lie to you about doing so.
3. The "old as the woman I'm feeling" is rather gross aimed at a stranger.

I’d give him a chance. It’s not as if he doubled down and continued the lie. Lots of people are insecure about their age. We live in a very ageist society. Just think of all the celebs who claim to be all natural, when we know they have had work done. He may have been rejected previously for being too old. I don’t think it’s any different from using filters or photoshop on dating profiles to be honest.

He is very jokey though and loves banter ( me too and I do take the piss a lot) zo o suspect he knew it was corny.

He did admit to it..I obviously didnt tell him I knew qnd he said it ASAP

I’ll be honest it sounds like you want to give him a chance and are looking forward others to say it’s on so if you do, then go for it but be cautious.

Personality I wouldn’t but I’m black and white about lies. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, it’s whether it’s a deal breaker for uou.

I know (because adult DS told me) that my XH lies about having been married twice.

We've been divorced for over 10 years. XH had moved in with a woman who he'd been seeing for over a year - they bumped into his 1st W in the supermarket who expressed her sympathy as she'd heard that XH's mother had recently died. Obviously his new partner asked to be introduced, XW held out her hand & politely introduced herself as <1st name> the 1st Mrs 'X'.

XH was very quickly made homeless & was temporarily living with DS which is why DS told me the story.

I didn't lose any sleep over it, lying pig

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Totally not. I just like yo gage if im overreacting due to my awful ex.

Ive added our chat into brenda and frank and they crucified him lol. Ill block him after sending a no thanks message I think. Shame as he was really attractive and successful.