Suspicious wife

[wednesdaywalks]

My partner has to travel away for work sometimes.

He’s been struggling financially for quite a few years now which I don’t understand how as he works & earns a lot more than me.

Never properly considered it before but after chatting with a friend it got me wondering if maybe he is up to other things when he goes away.

Over the last few months it seems to be more frequent and spontaneous when he needs to go away.
He can be quite distant at times.
I’m wondering whether he may be using escorts - may seem abit of a reach but just a few things don’t add up.

My question is, those who have been in similar positions or known someone who has been.
What did you do to catch them out?

please no judgement, I want women supporting women

No judgement from me but suspicion like this is probably the start of the end.

To answer your questions, how did people get caught out? The spouse snooped on emails, phone, bank statements etc. this, of course, is a violation of privacy and breaks the trust in a relationship if he isn't cheating. On one occasion an affair partner contacted the wife but you can't bank on that happening.

At the end of the day if you have these suspicions then something isn't right in the relationship. Famously you can't prove a negative (or it's very hard to). He could show you his emails but could have deleted all incriminating ones, he could show you texts but be messaging on a secret app, he could show bank statements but have a second account, he could agree to get an airtag but then leave it in the hotel room when he went out.

The first step is having an open conversation with him if you want to salvage the relationship and maybe counselling but if the trust is gone you dont need proof to walk away

Gambling addiction?

Have you never asked him where his money goes if he earns more than you? How does he explain it?

How is your marriage in general?

This was my first thought! I would probably suspect this before thinking he's using escorts.