Any advice/experience/opinions please 🙏🏻

[MummyYue]

Hello everyone,

I'm new here and unsure if this is the right topic to post my problem hoping to have some directions or lights shining my way…

Before I start, just a brief one if it’s not there right place I’ll delete and go :(

I have left an abusive relationship almost a year and lately ex partner giving me and our little boys silent treatment. Been 9 weeks not heard from him nor a birthday message for my 6 year old either. Also child maintenance is stopped. Friends and family said I must file a case with CMA. However I do t know what I’m scared of though I have nothing to worry except don’t know what will hit me if I report him. If everyone here is ok for me to carry on this port, then I’ll go into further details if that’s ok? Rather than boring everyone.

Mentally drained not slept since the silent treatment stared. Our little holiday was ruined in a way. Please help all mummies here xx I’ll be really grateful 🙏🏻

Thank you all xx

Has he had regular contact with the children up until now? Are you sure nothing has happened to him? If you know that he's ok and is just not bothering to see his children or pay maintenance, you need to put in a claim for cms. He doesn't have to have contact with you but he does have to pay towards his children's upkeep.

https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance-service

@Endofyear thanknyou for your reply. He had regular contacts with the boys before the sudden silent treatment. He paid me cash in hand every Sunday when I pick the boys up from his after staying over Saturday night.

he is absolutely fine as I saw him driving around and knowing he was out and about with his golf buddies as I bumped into one of them the other day and told me they had a good round at the course.

Anyhow, he’s self employed, the money he gave me is after when he done the weekly sum. I know he is not declaring much to tax office, I only have a weekly diary (since 1/1/2025)written down each week on Sunday +£200 then anything I spent whether cash or card I’d written it down up till May/June when I got way too overwhelmed with school and work then I stopped.

I don’t know why I’m so scared of putting a claim as in the past, when he’s clearly in the wrong he twisted things round and blame me for everything. Years of this, I don’t confront him anymore as it’ll lead to
more silent treatment and stone walls. I feel so angry and lost with fear.

Thank you for sharing the link, I’ll sort it out asap. Not sure if I can recover those money from Sunday 13th July until now. I have checked my phone regularly to
ensure I have not missed his message or calls. Unfortunately, there hasn’t been anything since 11th July as we last spoken just before my son’s football match.