Bit of an odd one and not sure what to think...

[NCforReasons]

I'm not really someone who puts much stock in social media. I have a fb account but that's all. Don't post very often and it's generally just checking in to gigs, stuff like that. Not loads of annoying stuff, memes, nothing political etc.

I'm early 50s so that's probably fairly standard, I'd guess.

Anyway, a couple of my friends got married last week. It was a small, private ceremony and they're having a party to celebrate in a couple of weeks to which my partner and I have been invited.

I last saw them about a month ago when everything was perfectly fine.

I've gone on to fb this morning to find she has posted photos of the wedding and discovered that he has both unfriended and blocked me and likely in the last week.

I'm flabbergasted. He hasn't unfriended (or blocked) my partner (who he only knows through me) nor any of our mutual friends. Literally, just me.

I know it's only SM and not real life but it feels quite deliberate and, I don't know, targeted? Specific? Uncomfortable? I don't know why he's made the effort to do this (given its obviously not a general cull and I'm not aware of having upset anyone. There have been no words, fallings out. Nothing). I feel a bit awkward about attending the whole celebration now. Does she even know? Would he rather I didn't go?

I think the only way to find out is to ask him

I know but the next time I'll see him will be at the party! Which doesn't really feel like the right time.

Could he have done it by mistake ?

To be honest, unless I had spoken to them beforehand, I wouldn't go to the party. That's really odd.

I was doing a tidy up of Facebook friends and accidentally unfriended the “wrong” Rachel .. could this have happened

Do you not having any way of contacting him or his wife?

Unfriending by mistake is one thing. Blocking is another. Might still have been a mistake. I’d text to ask.

I don't know!

I can't see how you'd do it accidentally.

I've had this happen a few times. In both cases they were men who were previously romantically interested in me but I had not reciprocated and never dated. I'd naively assumed they were happy to remain friends and then years later I've found myself blocked by them, but not by their wives (who I only know because of them). I've always found it too awkward to bring it up and have spent years pretending I didn't notice.

Send him a text, or call him. What do you have to lose by asking?

Well, before I realised, I commented on the post and she liked it but obviously he didn't.

Like I say, I only saw them in the last month and everything was fine. She's been in touch in the last couple of weeks, and again, everything was fine.

It is odd though.

An 'unfriend' possibly but a block?

I don't know.

Feign ignorance and be your usual lovely self when you next see them. I would ignore it.

Well, I could obviously contact her but he and I didn't really speak privately. On the incredibly rare occasions he's had reason to contact me, he's done it via messenger. I don't have his phone number.

It would feel odd to ask her tbh. He must have his reasons but there's no guarantees she knows anyway.

My mum was once complaining that she hadn’t seen stuff my dad posted and then he asked her about. I had a look and she had in fact accidentally blocked him 😂.

I think that's what I'm going to have to do.

It just feels a bit uncomfortable.

I can't imagine it's anything like that!

People can be so very weird

A husband of a long time friend of mine unfriended me on FB some time ago. I asked her (friend) why and she said he didn't like my politics. I'm left he's really not. Fair enough, I guess. Although I never ever post about politics

Then, a few years later, i discover that my friend has unfriended me. I ask why. She doesn't answer that question but tells me how ill she's been. Life and death

Obviously I don't know this as I've been unfriended

I pop round to see her with flowers, chocolates etc. During the ensuing conversation it transpires that whilst she was on death's door husband decided to go through her FB and unfriend me!

I had no words 🤣

Weird!

So I guess your options are, ask, feign ignorance or avoid them forever!

Oh no!

My go to would be 'avoid' 🤣

I'm going to have to go with feign ignorance. Anything else would require drawing attention to it.

My partner also thought it was odd.

People are strange.

Super weird. I'm not even bothering with it.....he doesn't like me. The End!🤣