Apologies for the long post! I am trying to make sense of my situation and would appreciate some guidance. I split up with my partner over 2 years and we have a six year old son. The relationship was very very toxic although we have known each other since we were little so there is a lot of history there. I still feel not ready to move on from my expartner and feel like there is “unfinished business” . During the relationship and whilst pregnant he would frequently disappear on nights out and not return until the early morning. When he would return he would lie in bed all day hungover leaving me to get on with my day. I actually lost count of the amount of times this happened. I remember on one occasions when I was heavily pregnant he went to buy some cigarettes and didnt come home untill six am. I tried to explain these problems to him during our relationship but he just said he would “never change for anyone”. Anyway I left, but not before trying again and again and again. The last time over a year and a half ago we tried again, he said he would take me out in a date, we lived separately at this time, anyway it was his day to pick his son up from nursary the same day. On that day he never picked his son up and turned his phone off and went on a bender all night. When I questioned him about this he said well I assumed you would pick him up as we were meant to be meeting up later? Again no accountability! That made me certain of my decision.
anyway, not long after this he met someone else and moved in with her pretty quickly like within a month! Fast forward a year and a half, he asked me if I still have feelings for him. Which I have to admit I do. He”s basically said he will leave his current partner to be with me and we can try again. Am I stupid for even thinking about this? I don’t know if he had changed with regard to his drinking as I only see him every other Saturday when he picks our son up for the day/night. I know some people will read this and think why would I even consider this as an option but I guess I’m just very torn. I know he is no good for me and the relationship the way it was was no good for my son. I can’t help but think would it be any different this time round… any help please