Should I be suspicious if car seat position moved

[Sageandtime]

Should I be suspicious about this? DH dropped me off for an hour's appointment, then he drove to drop off something at a friend's house, did some shopping, then returned to pick me up. When he picked me up, the passenger seat had moved. So I said to him that the seat had moved and he replied that was probably when he moved it looking for something under the seat the other day. However, when he told me previously about this he had said he'd moved the driver's seat. Also, I hadn't noticed the seat had changed position on the drive in to the appointment so it must've changed during the hour or so I wasn't in the car. The mechanisms are electric but it was the seat extender that had been pulled out, when you want more support under your legs, and this is a manual switch you lift and pull so it couldn't have been anything to do with the automatic seat settings.
I feel his explanation is a bit off because he didn't give any reason why or how it had moved during the hour but then if someone had been sitting in the passenger seat then why wouldn't he just say?
This isn't the first time the seat has changed its position but all previous times could be explained by him giving someone a lift so I've never mentioned about the seat moving.

I think this on its own isn't enough to raise suspicions. Is everything else ok between you?

Everything is fine between us but for the mysterious seat position changes. If someone gives me a lift I wouldn't change the seat position.

The fact that you go from something so innocent to being highly suspicious and looking for explanations to explain the moved seat, can mean one of two things:

• You have reasons to suspect that he's cheating on you. No concrete evidence, but the accumulation of small things and your instincts are screaming at you.
• You have a problem with trust or paranoia. It has nothing to do with your partner of his behaviour. Maybe you've been cheated on in the past. You have a tendency to be hypervigilant, notice every small detail and the smallest thing can make you go into panic mode and assume the worst.

Which one is it?

Of those two options, it must be option two as there aren't any other signs of him cheating. But I know it sounds bizarre but I wouldn't say he is cheating, just have a feeling that someone is occasionally in the car, but I'm suspicious as to why he wouldn't say if someone had been sitting in the car?

Given that you have no other indications that he's cheating, this seems a really bizarre thing to get worried about.

If I noticed the car seat had moved in the car, I'd move it back and then completely forget about it. I can't imagine how paranoid I'd have to be to make the leap to "My partner must be shagging someone else"

What's leading you down this thought process OP?

Well no but a lot of people would. DH has a variety of people in his passenger seat who he gives lifts to (his parents, kids, friends from his hobby as they take turns at driving to away matches) and every time I get in the seat is in a different position.

You say your DH went shopping whilst you were at your appointment, was there shopping in the car when he picked you up? I'm not trying to feed your paranoia but just trying to be logical about the whole thing... If he only had an hour and went to drop something off at a friends AND go shopping then he's very unlikely to have had time for anything else!!

So I said to him that the seat had moved and he replied that was probably when he moved it looking for something under the seat the other day. However, when he told me previously about this he had said he'd moved the driver's seat.

I do think that there is something deeper going on here that you are remembering and picking things like this up in such detail?

I really don’t think 1 hour is enough of a time frame for anything untoward to happen. Especially if shopping was also done in that timeframe. It would not raise suspicion. Maybe he moved it so he can put a bag down on the floor.

Agree with other posters that (since you don't have other reasons for believing he may be cheating) this level of suspiciousness over something so small suggests that you are seriously over-anxious or (perhaps as a result of something in your past) extraordinarily vulnerable to feelings of jealousy.

EDIT: I should have said "... jealousy or mistrust."

I was looking for my purse in the car a couple of days ago. Even though it was only on Tuesday I can’t really remember if I loved the drivers and passengers seat to find it (eventually found in the house).

I don’t think it’s strange if he was looking for something in the car that he would have moved seats around and forgotten which ones. And perhaps you just didn’t notice at first?

Don't bring this subject up again....
Ask yourself why it is triggering your instinct. Watch and wait..

I have had suspicions raised by small things in the past. In my case, it turned out to be an affair that was triggering me. I hope that in your case, this turns out not to be the case.

@Sageandtime its either your scenes are heightened for a reason or your paranoid.
Keep quiet and see if anything come of it .
Do you have open access to his phone ? Is he often away longer than usual ?

I know of someone who had a long term affair and it wasn’t always sex related . So yeah just chumming someone in the only hour you can get alone of possible .

Only you wilL know op if anything is off .
Are you generally an untrusting person ?

Probably knocked it by mistake when getting out. I do this all the time with mine, the buttons are so sensitive.