Partners family event

[Carol52]

My partner and I don’t live together we have been in a relationship for 30 years and have two older teenage children:
we have had alot of problems over the years hence we now don’t live together.
his family are having a very large party . I don’t want to go 1. Most of them ignore me normally anyway 2. I have put a lot of weight on and don’t feel good about myself at the moment.
i think he should go with the kids but am I being selfish not going.
please any advice asap
thank you

There's worse things to be than selfish OP and sometimes you should be selfish. Fuck them.

Don't go. And don't feel guilty for not going.

Don't go.
Selfish is just another word for loving yourself enough to not sacrifice yourself for the sake of others.
Be selfish. It's fine.

Thank you

Don’t go. I’m very happily married and I think I look good enough and I get along with Dh’s family, but I don’t go to every family event. I don’t always want to go make small talk and Dh is a big boy who doesn’t need me to chaperone him places.