Dreams about ex

[DreamOrNightmare]

I keep dreaming about my ex, but not just random dreams, it's usually quite graphic sexual dreams. I hate having them it's really embarrassing but obviously I can't control my dreams. why am I having these sexual dreams about him?! he is a really horrible person and we split up years ago we don't even have any contact and he doesn't see our children so why the dreams? It's really making me feel uncomfortable and wrong when I wake up. how I can stop this happening? I haven't spoken to any irl about this due to how embarrassing it is. How can I make them stop?

I have this too! It is awful, he wont leave me alone even in my sleep. I guess it's some unresolved issue.

Stupid question, but why is it embarrassing? It's not like anyone is aware of it but you.

Presumably you're having sex dreams because you're missing sex. Your brain is using your ex to fulfil that need because presumably there's lots of memories and past experience for your brain to draw from there.

It doesn't mean you're still in love with him, or attracted to him, or missing him. He's just a placeholder, there so that your mind has someone to imagine having sex with.

I guess because he is such an awful person? Someone that abandons their kids shouldn't even be in my thoughts let alone (sex) dreams about them. I actually despise the man so it's confusing me and they are very realistic.

Thank you I'm glad it's not just me! It's awful having these dreams.

We all have lots of dreams a night, most of which we don't remember at all. Dreams that provoke a strong emotional reaction are more likely to be remembered when you wake up The sheer fact that you despise your ex might be the reason you're actually remembering the ones involving him, while you're blissfully unaware of the torrid affair you're also having with Henry Cavill

I dream about my ex sometimes. We've been split ten years. Once, I dreamt we were cuddling naked on the bed. When I woke up, I was a little sad and missed her a little. Life can be strange sometimes.

They are quite often, not every night but maybe twice a week, glad to hear this isn't totally unusual then!