So I’ve been in a relationship for nearly 13 years. We both have one child each then we have one together. (7 yrs)
my partner was married and went through a rough divorce and family court. He states the reason for the marriage ending was due to his mental health/breakdown.
things have been normal I guess, ups and downs. But we both have good jobs, a family home and have worked hard for where we have got.
we currently are at a point of ending everything, he nitpicks on the smallest things the main blow up is that my 21 yr old daughter has been home for the summer due to university breakdown. We agreed she should come home and sort out her next steps, all I asked of her was to get a job to be able to support of own life and we expected her to help out at home/younger sister pick ups etc.
she managed to get a part time job and is starting uni again in September.
however my partner has not stopped going on about her using the washing machine and tumble dryer. Everytime it’s on he says it’s £2.50 and saying she needs to pay for it.
it’s constant ….. everyone taking the piss out of him etc
I firmly believe he has some MH issues that need dealing with, the use of the tumble dryer really isn’t the issue.
I’m at the point now where a decision has to be made as it’s not fair to live like it and a massive argument has forced this on us now.
He has said I don’t listen and unless I charge her £20 he cannot continue
and the house is being sold…. I’m so angry he can be like that
I do not want to be treated like it and feel I should/need to set good examples to my daughters of what is healthy but also don’t want to throw everything away if there are some underlying issues that could be resolved- if he is willing to speak to someone
I have thrown the idea of couples counselling out and waiting for response- I’m gonna suggest it’ll be a no and he won’t pay for it.
most issues are around money
thank you - I feel lost and utterly gutted