Moving on

[Mumofboys1619]

My relationship of 12 years recently ended suddenly in a very bad way a way there is no going back from , hurt but because of the situation knew I had to just move forward he doesn’t see the kids doesn’t want to , someone recently come on the scene not my typical type but liked him offered to do stuff for kids was really lovely told him I wasn’t ready for anything serious but sex happened he told me how much he liked me etc I felt a bit rushed so put the brakes on a tiny bit now he completely ghosted me and the rejection hurts like hell I can’t get him out my head for some reason just have a really bad feeling I will be alone forever :( not sure of it’s the reality of my long term relationship failing and the distraction has ghosted me , will life get better 36 two children just feel so alone right now even tho I have everything

If you felt rushed then you were right to put the brakes on. You need to listen to your feelings which you did. If he ghosted you then it’s better you found out sooner what kind of a person he really is. Sounds like you’re going through a lot. Take your time, focus on yourself and the kids. Sorry to hear their dad doesn’t seem interested in the kids. That seems to be a common occurrence.

Thank you for your kind words and advice, your right not sure how you can just go on like your kids don’t exist but I will make sure they never feel the impact of his decisions

Your past guy sounds like a real winner of a guy not having nothing to do with his own kids. What a real great man. Sounds like whatever happened, he did you a favor really. Poor kids truly. I would quite hate him if a ,an did that to our kids. You are still young. Your focus should be more just on your kids, I'm sure this is deep for them. You can do you rea.ly after you do good raising them. I don't know if bringing new men in their lives and then that man leaving too was a good ide It should be someone you have been commited with a really long time you can trust isnt going to leave before you even entertain having your kids meet them truly. You should not be really concerned about yourself so much and just have calmnesss as much as possible for your kids. You spend time with them more. Its important to focus on them first period. They are probably hurting inside. Be a good mom and you can worry about men later. Its not all about you. Sorry but its true.

Now is not the time to be thinking of a new relationship. It doesn't sound like you're ready. Of course it doesn't mean you will be alone forever, you're still young and just got to give yourself time to heal.

I should have added this wasn’t a random man introduced to my children we had known each other for years he was already around my kids they were never aware he was anything more than what he was before things moved the way they did so my kids are obviously oblivious to any of this , my kids are my focus but it still the rejection / ghosting still hurts