My daughter (late 20s) has cognitive disabilities but got a college degree and is outgoing, happy - and gullible. Several times we've had to step in when men were taking advantage her financially, emotionally etc. to help her keep out of trouble. She isn't able to recognize when guys are lying to her, getting her to spend her salary on their food etc.
She has a new boyfriend who is quirky, like her. They have a great time together, but within just a few months, he's already essentially moved into her apartment in a student complex. She denies it but is so desperate to have a boyfriend, just goes along with it. He has cognitive disabilities too so they giggle like teens.
We just met him for the first time. He spun story after story e.g. how this filmmaker emailed him to offer our daughter a part in his next film, how he's arranging to send her on an all expense paid trip to the east coast, how he just happened to own a horse that she loved at nearby stables. Whatever we said he interrupted to say he'd already done that, owned one of those etc. He's in his mid-30s, no college, a series of low paid jobs, said he lives at home and now works a minimum pay job. I've quietly told her to ask to see these "emails" because his lies don't make sense. He got her to sync her phone so that he has access to all her texts and emails - under the guise of her being able to look at his work schedule. He seems to tell her what to wear and told her to get out of her car because he hadn't opened the door for her. She complied.
Am I wrong to think that this screams Red Flags! His overly talkative manner seems creepy and controlling.
Advice? Do I intervene with this guy, tell him he's been caught out and stay away? They work together and she doesn't want to see what a common sense observer would see. He's clever in that he gets her to talk about experiences and then picks up on the details, and then says he knew the organizer, or could get her a free trip there, etc. A clever manipulator? A harmless attempt to feel wanted? A dangerous psycho? What to do?
Signed, Protector