Looking for some advice / if anyone has been in a similar situation.
I found (by chance / gut instinct really) my partner of 11 years and father to my daughter had an account and had been very active of FabSwingers. There were hundreds of messages over an 8 week period, a lot of which had been sent while we were away a family holiday (this was found out the day after we returned).
The messages were extremely vulgar and the volume of them was extreme. There was also conversations with women claiming he had met someone for sex the week prior (which aligns with a night out he went on and didn’t return home until 3.30AM and was acting very off).
He swears he never met anyone off it and was just making it up saying he’d met others, I of course don’t believe him. This isn’t the only issue we have had, for years when drinking he can be verbally abusive and has flung me out of our home in the middle of the night on multiple occasions and has rarely shown remorse.
Now he doesn’t want to split our family up, is promising to change, stop drinking, be a better partner, father etc. I have left the family home and staying with family - which is hard because I feel I’m the one being punished but he won’t leave the home (it is his home he purchased prior to us getting together).
Recently told my daughter we were living apart and she is choosing to stay at the house more, which is understandable as she is only 5 and wants the comfort of her home and I’m trying to be flexible for her to not cause any distress.
Really just looking for advice from anyone who has been through the same thing, did you stay and grant them another chance? Did it work out or do you regret it?
My head says walk away but my heart is torn purely for my daughter - and I’m not coping well with the pressure put on me so any advice is appreciated .
Sorry for the long post!!