Anyone ever been so heartbroken when ex got up and left then gone on to have a better life

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Just that really it’s been 6 months since ex left me as wasn’t happy posted about it previously. It’s the first time in 6 month I have getting to angry stage due to him constantly putting new partner before children and he’s actually made life better although I was so heartbroken and couldn’t function at beginning and I look at his life compared to mine I have gained a lot since he left better off financially meeting with friends going out started gym lost weight more time to spend with children as get house work done when they are out with him, I am not stuck in 7 nights a week on my own whilst he went to work and entertaining children on own as he always worked which got lonely, where as he is still living with his mam even more skint barely pays for the children and uses free time to sit in new partner flat as they can’t afford to go out. I don’t think I will as such get over how he could just get up and leave but I am starting to think differently or is it too soon to be getting over the split. Just wondering if he actually done me a favour

Well done OP, it just took time to heal.
You sound as if you're doing amazing, don't focus on him and keep healing.
All the best.

@Diarygirlqueen thank you just didn’t know if it was a fluke as I haven’t cried for a week and had more motivation hope I don’t go back to crying and moping around for him. I will keep thinking of the positives

I thought my heart would literally rip in half when my ex broke up with me. I felt sick, constantly crying etc but like you about 6 months in and I realised how much better life was without him. Without any man in fact. Its been 2 years since we split up and honestly I am not sure I ever want to be in a relationship again. I love living with no man around, doing what I want when I want. It has been so refreshing.

Mate your eyes are starting to open and the rose tinted specs coming off. This man was clearly holding you back. It’s clear to see who the winners and and who the losers are when you watch progress after a break up. You keep living your best life and let his new flavour of the month put up with his shite. He sounds repulsive, done you a MASSIVE favour. I far prefer living alone with my kids to having a rude, smelly, lazy, selfish manchild draining the life from me, it’s the way to go! 😁

Good for you OP the trash took itself out. My ex dropped me very instantly a few weeks ago we didn't live together or have children but I also still don't understand how someone can just up and leave instantly like people do it blows my mind....hopefully like you in 6 months time I'll feel more positive about it all but currently on day 6 without contact and feeling stronger each day!

Oh yeah.

When I realised that the breakup was supposed to happen because I was being redirected to better things.
It takes time as you know OP but no pain, no gain as they say :)

@Suednymph yes exactly how I feel I lost 3 stone in 2 month thinking how I would ever cope but starting to enjoy life again.

@summitfever haha yeah that’s how I see it now she can put up with him as honeymoon period won’t last forever

@Mondaybluez I think that’s how I have struggled as literally contacted everyday due to children. I hope you do feel like me soon as I was a mess for good few month of feeling worthless and I had a hard time accepting it as was out of blue to me not him

@Mysticguru i know I feel like I am being directed to better things although he’s making it out to me how happy his new life is to me constantly as saying he wasn’t happy for months and now he is and he moved in with her after 8 weeks as only met her in July it’s bizarre

He didn't meet her in July. He's spinning BS. It's been going on for a while. Turn off the constant barrage of narrative. Block him!!

Don’t focus on him and his life and whether he is happy or skint or whatever. That’s just giving him too much real estate in your head.

@Mysticguru he was on a stag do 4 weeks after he left with my brother in law as share mutual friends and he was there when they got introduced but who knows. Yeah I have blocked him now as no need to contact

@bumbaloo yeah I do give him too much room in my head but least I don’t cry thinking how worthless I am anymore as his behaviour and actions since he left is something I have never seen in 13 years together and very much selfish

Me! hand up I was completely crushed for a couple of years. Divorce broke me but I realise it was a metamorphosis. I couldn't have known how amazing life would become. And not because I met a man, even tho I have an incredible boyfriend (not living together)... I just achieved so much on my own, have hobbies, more self-esteem, bought and totally renovated a property, a new job I love, have travelled a little, got pets, and pursued my interests. The best part is how close my DC and I have become. We have a happy, relaxed, pretty home. I'm so happy and pinch myself these days that this life is mine. You can only move through it OP... look after yourself and go at your own pace. But know that better times are coming xx

@cambiodenombre123 yeyyy I know I was crushed and could not see my life getting any better I stupidly begged him to come back for a good few weeks cringe. Now like you me and dc are so much closer we were practically on our own due to shift work so didn’t have much family time which was cause of arguments. I hope I am like that and achieve a lot as I think I got myself in a rut and as a mother and partner just thought this is life when it wasn’t really I just don’t think I would of had the guts to walk away so maybe he done me a favour