Not Again!

[Notnotagain]

I'm a regular poster but have name changed.

Long story short, Dh and I had a great marriage, he then had an affair, we got over it.

Things had until the last few weeks been going well. Then he started to snipe at me again. I ignored it, but was left with that nagging gut feeling that I couldn't put my finger on.

Today I was clearing the computers up, clearing out some cookies, and a general de-frag etc.

I went to do Dh's computer, something that I do as he has no clue how to or is too lazy to do.

His PC has suddenly been passworded, alarm bells rang, I got through password, and he is at it again! very clearly on his computer, emails, pictures, facebook, msn and it has left me with no doubt what he is doing!
I'm bloody angry. This is going to sound awful, but the last time and this time he has chosen an absolute dog of a woman, which makes it worse.
I know what I have to do, I can't live like this, he will just keep on doing it, I know.
But I am so so angry!

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So sory you are going through this - it is a fear of mine that is it possible for a leopard to change his spots.

It sounds as if you are in contol at the moment and you are doing the right thing, what an idiot surely he knows this is going to happen. Do you think he really wanted you to find out?

Please do come and join us on fab and glam.

Thank you for the invite to fab and glam. I'll pop on there x

I'm not quite as in control this morning, but will get myself together by the time he gets home tonight.

Vs thank you I put on msn plus

I have started to filter some money out of my account to my mum and best friend, they are going to pay this back to me, when everything is going through with the divorce and will give me and the dc a head start.

I'm lucky that we don't have a joint account and that the bills already go out of mine, the only thing that will change is that I won't get house keeping from Dh. But while I am still getting it, this is what I am filtering out and saving.
I have also booked the hair dressers and a wax session for me!

It started to hit me last night, when I wasn't able to be busy sorting things out.

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Thank you for the support, and let me know If i'm getting boring! .. I feel Like I just want to yell and yell.

You sound very together and capable.
Keep on with your plans, keep siphoning the money off and just present him with a fait accompli.
He truly will regret messing you around in this way.
Enjoy the beauty treatments, good for you

My xh did similar for many years, so you have my extreme sympathy. You are right, he will probably never change. It isn't your fault. I would imagine he has a massive ego problem. Good luck with getting through the things you need to do.

So sorry to hear this

You couldn't possibly become boring! Stay angry while it helps you. You're an inspiration to those of us who have suffered betrayal.

Your progress with the practicalities surrounding what must be a very difficult time for you is awe inspiring. No doubt about it, you deserve so much better!

Dear NNA, so sorry to hear your H is at it again. You seem so together in sorting things out, really good!! If you feel sad, lonely and angry come on here, we'll all listen to you and try to help.

What an idiot to throw away his family for a lay. Again. You'll be so much better off without him.

Maybe worthwhile to write out a few checks to yourself for cash use and cash them bit by bit and stash the money away at a friend's, your Mum's, etc. Get all the policies out, insurance papers and his pensions. The lawyer can go through them and let you know how much you'll get. Do you own property together? Have it re-evalued and explained how much you're entitled to.

Wishing you strength!

Hope you're still keeping it together, it must be terribly painful.