My uncle, in his late seventies , has described to me his complete devastation over his affair with a retired teacher and carer , who came to live with him expense free – expressing her forever love for him – while secretly saving for a house of her own to share with her boyfriend. My uncle is emotionally very vulnerable, having lost both his wife and son a few years ago and she clearly played on his vulnerability to deceive and fleece him.
She gaslighted him for months pretending that they were together forever while feigning illness to move out of his room and proceeding to buy a house, partly funded by his generosity. He believes all her family knew of her plans and his deception was a source of amusement to them.
When he discovered the sale memorandum for her house she erupted in anger, threatening him if he changed the locks . Then she abruptly packed her bags and left. He later found out that she had planned to deceive him right to the end and had fixed the date, when he was planning to be away, to strip the house and ride off without even a goodbye. She had already arranged mail redirection with the confidentiality restriction on her new address.
He met her through a reputable introduction agency and they are also shocked by her behaviour. My uncle is convinced she was already carrying on an affair with an old friend for most of their relationship.
He describes her as the most cruel, manipulative and deceitful women he has ever met and remains devastated.
I hope this serves as a warning to us all and particularly to our elder parents and relations as to the dangers new relationships can bring.