Am I being mean? Friend who always has the worst problems

[nothtatlongago]

I feel like I am perhaps being a bit of a bitch, but I am feeling a bit fed up and now dreading the weekend. Sorry if this is a bit long but I want to add the background to not drip feed
Background, I have PTSD from an incident 2 years ago, I am currently doing pretty brutal therapy for this. 4 months ago, my husband walked out after 10 years for another woman, and I was blindsided. A month ago, it all got too much, and I made quite a serious suicide attempt; I am 'lucky' to be alive, although I don't feel it.
A friend suggested a girls' weekend away might do me good, give me a chance to open up a bit about whats been going on and socialise without the other halves as we tent to be a group who often socialise as couples and I am now the only single one. I agreed she has organised a lovely sounding weekend which I have been really looking forward to.
One of my friends coming lets call her C has a tendancy to always have the worst problems, if you've stubbed your toe she's broke her leg kind of thing. We have been friends for a very long time, and I do love her and have always just tolerated this and brushed it off but in this situation it is really getting to me. She got some bad news a couple of days ago and while it's a pretty shitty situation it isn't life changing/threatening or anything like that. She sent this news to the group chat and everyone sympathised but since then it has just been constant fishing for sympathy. We mentioned sleeping arrangements and its 'ohh I don't think I can share one of the rooms because I am just not sleeping due to stress at the moment.' Someone sends restaurant menus and its 'I am to stressed to eat currently so choose wherever'
I know the whole weekend is going to be her being dramatic and wanting everyone to go over and over her issue and sympathise and I just don't want to go anymore.
Its not even that I want everyone to be focusing on me, I really don't I am not someone that likes to talk about my problems. I was just hoping for a nice chill weekend away to enjoy some nice food and have a good laugh.
I think its mainly I just don't have the bandwidth to show endless sympathy for someone given my own issues. This probably isn't helped by the fact in the month since my attempt not once has she checked in to see how I am doing, same when my husband left.
So I guess the question is am I being a bitch or is this a valid way to feel?

Maybe don’t go

I think you need to distance yourself.

Does the group know that a few weeks ago you tried to take your own life?

You poor love. I think I would ask the organising friend to read C the Riot Act in advance and remind her this w/e actually is about you - I don't mean in terms of being centre of attention but in terms of cheering you up, so far as that's possible.

Valid.

When things really have been tough, it's difficult for drama merchants not to quite accidently brush up the raw spots.

I don't think that the old way of stiff upper lip was good, but constant banging on about how stressed you are isn't good either. It doesn't need mentioning all the time, partly out of a sense of proportion, partly out of consideration and partly because in the scenarios you mentioned it's so bloody egotistical.

You know your friendship group best, but would a text in the group app work, something along the lines of "some of us have had some challenges recently, as we all know; it would be lovely if we could keep things light and fun while we're away"

Isn’t that called Elevenrife? If you’ve been to Tenerife, they’ve been to Elevenrife etc.

Understandable and personally I wouldn’t want to be around that so wouldn’t attend.

I don't want not to go because the friend organising has put so much effort into trying to ensure it will be a lovely weekend, and I really don't want that to go to waste.
The group (4 + me) all know what has happened, including the attempt, I have no family nearby and 2 of them where in the ICU visiting me, drove me home on discharge and stayed with me afterwards so they all know how bad it was.

Could someone else in the group have a quiet word with her? Could you speak to them? It doesn't need to be done bitchily.

Perhaps just call her out in a kind way something like “yes we all have problems and have to learn new coping mechanisms at various points in life - but now this break is about forgetting our troubles which we all have and having a good time, none of us are therapists so if your not coping with Xx perhaps you should book a professional “. Hopefully she will get the message

But how you you know that everyone wants this break to be about “forgetting troubles”

maybe some want to kick back with close friends and open up about stuff going on

If someone posted this on a group chat, I’d think “who the hell are you to tell us what this break is about and what we should or shouldn’t be saying?!”

Ok so trust your other friends then that that person won’t get to dominate the break with talk of her troubles

I’m really sorry to hear you’ve had an awful time of it. Sorry to hear about the insensitive friend. It’s a shame she doesn’t drop out. I hope you have an enjoyable weekend and start to feel better soon x

Thankyou, I am glad I am not being an awful human for thinking this, I think @ReleaseTheDucksOfWar has hit the nail on the head, and she is unintentionally brushing the raw spots.
It is really not in my nature to send messages like suggested to the group chat, I really don't want any drama. The others have not paid much attention to her messages so I am hoping they are thinking the same and will help make the weekend bearable.