Bank transfer during NC

[Notjustyousis]

I saw XBF has sold our £500 tickets on Twickets. I'd rather my £250 was back in my budget and spent on my life needs.

If he doesn't transfer the cash, is it a reason to contact and ask?

If he does transfer the cash, is it a good reason to text thank you, and try to start a conversation?

We were together 2 years, great friends for 2 years before that. I discovered he'd cheated. We were working through it, but he ended things after 4 months of trying, as my occasional mention of the hurt he caused made him feel bad. We've been NC since April at his request. He said he'd be back in touch when he was ready.

My ideal long term with him would be to able to have a text conversation here and there through the years as old friends. I don't want to get back with him-the space has made me realise trust is gone. I'd just like to feel I could message him on high days and holidays and wish him well.

How would you proceed?

Well he wouldn’t be getting 6 months of stringing me along , contact when he’s ready ? No way , he cheated on you , he doesn’t get to make the rules !
You can certainly ask for the money but if you’re doing it solely to initiate contact ( sounds like you are ) then I think you’re going to end up hurt again!
sorry this is happening to you x

Whilst I understand you'd like the money back, as @bugalugs45 is saying, I don't really think that's what you're actually after.
If I could, I'd absorb the cost as a lesson

Long term, I would like to think I can wish an old friend a Happy Christmas. I don't want to do something in the short term that will jeopardise that. Hence the question.

We supported each other through some really tough times, and I know I'll always look back on my rough times with thankfulness he was there.

NO contact = don’t message thanks or reminders etc.

Wait it out, give him time to send the money without prompting. If he knows you’ll get a notification about the tickets selling he may be waiting for a message. DO NOT rise to it.

You’ll either get the money back unprompted, or he’s a money grabbing asshole and will keep it whether or not you message him. Do not open up the drama by requesting, responding, thanking. Just move along with your life. If at some point you wish to reach out and say merry xmas or whatever, that time may come. But it isn’t now.

Could you keep it very civil with, hi could you forward me the £ 250 as seen tickets are sold ta

And see if he replies, at this stage you don't need to be friendly do you , I wouldn't open up that line of conversation to be honest ' how are you' what you been up to' no just ' can I have my money,

Now if he comes back with friendly banter that's OK you can reply nicely or again keep it short ' yer great' or ' 👍'

Now you just need to know he will send money over,

If you paid out for your tickets then you should have a choice in the matter.
I did something similar but asked what he wanted to do with it during NC. I saw it as the decent thing to do and didn’t want to assume. If he’d wanted the ticket I’d have transferred it to him or given him the money if sold. He didn’t want either. It didn’t prompt a further conversation but I didn’t expect it to. He knows where I am if he wants to apologise and he never has.
But there was no cheating in my case, and I left.
If he cheated that’s a bit different, you really should get your money back. I’d ask for it if he doesn’t offer. Then leave it at that. Not sure how further contact will help you, it could draw you back into what seems like an unhealthy dynamic.