I’ve left! But what now?

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I’ve finally left. The final straw? Him strangling me while while I was on the same bed as my 17 month old and having to rock my child back to sleep with blood all up my face. I couldn’t breathe and all I could think about was if my baby was ok.
I upped and left today while he was at work. I’ve taken pictures of my bruises and called the police.
The question is what do I do now? He has no idea where I am at the moment. I’m scared and I’m lonely. I have family but he knows where they all are so I can’t go there. Will he get sent away? Will my child have to see him? Will my son remember this? I’m loosing my mind.

Where are you? With anyone?

Is it long term?

You need to go to the police and report him

I’m not with anyone just my son. I have reported him.

Well done. Has he been arrested? Have you been planning this and this place can be long term? Does your son attend nursery?

@Itchyoureyeim waiting for an officer to come and take a statement. He’s not at nursery as I work from home at the moment. No wasn’t planned at all, he’s always been a bully but last night I thought I was going to die. I’ve just got a bag for me and son at the moment, left everything else there I just needed to leave

So you’re in a refuge? The police are coming tonight?

Please reach out to your family. You need some sort of support. This is a huge trauma to carry alone. Do as above posters have advised, get a non-molestation order and yes, check yr phone for trackers.

‘’I’m so sorry you’ve been treated so viciously, I don’t know the stats, but if he’s done this once there’s every likelihood he’ll do it again if you return. Please don’t, no matter what he might, probably will promise. Sending all good wishes.

Do you think it’s safe for the op to answer that?

Well done for leaving and reporting him. The fact that he strangled you will be taken extremely seriously and hopefully mean that he will be put away and you can keep your son away from him. I'm sorry you've had to go through that. I'm happy you've survived. I can only imagine how you are feeling.

Can you contact your family for support, even if you don't feel safe enough to actually go to them? Hopefully the police can arrest him quickly.

Well done for protecting yourself and you son. What an incredible mother you are.

Im so sorry this happened OP.

please please check your phone for trackers or better still go buy a burner and sell your current one.

Dont downplay what happened to the police. Say you thought you were going to die or be seriously injured. Tell them everything.

Stay strong. Do not go back. Come back here for reassurance if you’re feeling weak or like you can’t talk to anyone.

Make sure you’re somewhere safe and that he doesn’t know where you are (bank statements if you’re in paid accomodation that can be accessed by him for example so take out cash and pay cash if possible).

This is day 1 of the rest of your life with your son sticking up for him and yourself and knowing you deserve so much better than this.

Well done for getting out of there to a place of safety. Try and stay calm, there is no need to do anything until you've spoken to the police. One step at a time OP, the police will advise you and you can also call Women's Aid or the National Domestic Abuse Helpline
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

It's good that he doesn't know where you are - don't be tempted to communicate with him in any way, no matter what he messages you. He will probably cry and beg and promise you the world but don't ever think about going back to him. A man who strangles his partner is a very dangerous man indeed. Keep yourself safe and look after yourself lovely 💐

Thank you everyone. Phones definitely isn’t trackered as there was no sign of him. Have given my statement and they are putting me in touch with people that can help me out in regards to where to go from here.

Good luck op. I am in awe of your bravery.

Good luck Op.

So very glad to hear that you will have help and advice about what comes next. Well done for being so brave, you are amazing! Look after yourself lovely 💐

Thank you