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Being ghosted is horrendous

29 replies

Floss9791 · 28/08/2025 17:17

After 4 months of exclusive dating I’ve been ghosted and it’s awful.

I just do not understand how anyone could be so cruel and hurtful, when outwardly he appeared to be the last person to do such a horrible thing, especially as he knew my ex husband cheated with one of my best friends and got her pregnant (years ago).

I’m cautious with men but he was kind, sweet, made breakfast in bed, checked in every single day and was caring and funny.
I admired the fact he had grown up daughters and openly expressed that he treated girls with the respect he would expect someone to treat his own children. He asked after my children and showed an active interest in all aspects of my life.

Out of the blue I have been ghosted. He has made no contact for 6 days and I am shocked, angry, crying all the time and feel utterly worthless.

I’ve replayed things over and over in my head trying to understand what I could possibly have done to deserve this or triggered such an abrupt end to all communication.

I have been really strong and not messaged him for an explanation, I know my worth deep down even though it’s hard to not self blame, I know if he had any shred of decency or care for me at all then he would contact me.

I have deleted all his photos and his number.

I can not contact him now even if I wanted to.

I am utterly broken.

I trusted him and I shouldn’t have.

OP posts:
Pinkissmart · 30/08/2025 11:02

Don't keep the door open for him.

Wish him well, say a firm goodbye and let it go

LupaMoonhowl · 30/08/2025 11:31

Pinkissmart · 30/08/2025 11:02

Don't keep the door open for him.

Wish him well, say a firm goodbye and let it go

This.
I kept the door open for 18 month s in a similar situation. Then I canned jobs, got a new hobby and met someone else. He took it very badly and made overtures to come back,
No.
Please do cut all contact with him and try to make a few small changes (or big changes) in your life so you have v other things to occupy your time and thoughts.

MamaElephantMama · 30/08/2025 11:37

He’s trying to save you for later. Close the door to him.

Chances are he’s gone back to his ex.

OpheliaNightingale · 30/08/2025 11:41

Floss9791 · 28/08/2025 17:59

He has read my last message and not replied

@Floss9791 Someone has, not necessarily him. Could it be that he was already in a relationship and been caught out? Ultimatum given perhaps?Assuming he’s not dead in a ditch, he will be back in touch. Mark my words..

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