Need to break up with my boyfriend…

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he is a lovely guy, genuine, down to earth, kind. But I feel like there’s something missing. I can’t quite put my finger on it but something is telling me this is not right for me. I feel like he loves me so much but I know my feelings aren’t quite the same although I do care a lot about him.
im worried about being on my own though, I know that sounds selfish, we don’t live together and see each other once or twice a week just. I just can’t picture living together, marriage or kids with him. We are both early 30s

has anyone ever had a gut feeling like this that something is just missing?

any advice?

If it doesn’t feel right tell him, and break it off.

Worst thing you could do is stay with him. That feeling will claw away at you and it’ll make both of you unhappy.

I feel like he ticks all the boxes though but it’s just not there for me

I remember feeling like this years ago. I remember being out with my boyfriend and suddenly thought I wanted to cry just looking at him. It took a while for me to finish with him.

What do you think that was about for you? I’ve felt similar, it’s like a sadness or something

I felt like this lately and ended a relationship over it.

I think it might be that a big part of you wants it be right because he’s a good person and he ticks all the boxes, but he’s just not the one for you. It’s a tough situation but I think time generally just makes these things worse, not better.

I don't know. I think in that moment I might have felt sorry for him. He was happy but I knew I wasn't. The feeling passed although I did eventually finish with him. I never forgot that feeling though.

If you don't think this guy is the one then end it. It's not fair for him to keep investing in the relationship if you're going to end it one day anyway. Set him free to find someone else. It doesn't matter if he 'ticks all the boxes'. If you're not feeling it then finish it and then you too are free to find the person who is right for you. This man is not a placeholder.

He's not the one it's only kind to end it. Why are you worried about being single. If you only see him once a week. You must spend time alone and have other interests.

I tried to quash that feeling as he was such a good guy and now 23 years down the line were both utterly miserable. Leave now and don't look back