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Day 2 no contact....

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Mondaybluez · 28/08/2025 14:54

No contact is so bloody hard....my mates on day 2 of no contact and she's struggling....top tips for maintaining this no contact after her ex has absolutely shattered her heart please?

Relationships are HARD!

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Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 14:56

day 2…. That doesn’t bode well

need more detail… any children together? Does she have children? How long were they together? Why the rather dramatic NC?

and how old is she?

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 14:59

Given your threads op, this is quite clearly you. No “friend”

op, he’s a twat, it was a silly drama fuelled relationship and he lost interest in the end.

Just let it go. Life’s too short for this kind of nonsense

Whatareyoutalkingaboutnow · 28/08/2025 15:22

Write a nice clear list of all the things he did which broke your heart. Read it. Read it again. And again, any time you feel your resolve weaken.
He hurt you. Why would you want someone who did that? 💐

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Mondaybluez · 28/08/2025 19:03

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 14:59

Given your threads op, this is quite clearly you. No “friend”

op, he’s a twat, it was a silly drama fuelled relationship and he lost interest in the end.

Just let it go. Life’s too short for this kind of nonsense

We are both going through it. However I don't have to do the no contact thing as haven't had contact for a while. Hers Is fresh.

Mines deffo a twat! Hers also

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Mondaybluez · 28/08/2025 19:04

Whatareyoutalkingaboutnow · 28/08/2025 15:22

Write a nice clear list of all the things he did which broke your heart. Read it. Read it again. And again, any time you feel your resolve weaken.
He hurt you. Why would you want someone who did that? 💐

Thank you I'll do that x

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Itchyoureye · 28/08/2025 19:36

Mondaybluez · 28/08/2025 19:04

Thank you I'll do that x

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So it is you OP? Your own break up was very very recent (and from such a twat!!) and you seemed quite devastated. Focus on yourself. Your friend can focus on herself

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Mondaybluez · 29/08/2025 16:01

Itchyoureye · 28/08/2025 19:36

So it is you OP? Your own break up was very very recent (and from such a twat!!) and you seemed quite devastated. Focus on yourself. Your friend can focus on herself

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No. I'm 3 plus weeks out of the relationship now my friend however is in the early stages. I don't do so well in no contact I am a mess so I don't feel I can advise because I literally don't pull myself out of the hole until around 10 days

I'm sad but my relationship I knew was bad and I'm actually relieved now. Unlike her

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ComtesseDeSpair · 29/08/2025 19:16

She just needs to remember that he shattered her heart and he doesn’t want to be with her, she’s better off out of a relationship with somebody who doesn’t love or care for her than trying to beg for him back. Trying to contact him when he clearly doesn’t want that is only going to prolong the pain and is also ultimately harassment. She needs to block his number and then delete it so she isn’t tempted.

Encourage her to then organise some distractions for the time she’d usually see him or spend time messaging him. Evening activities, seeing friends, just getting out of the house.

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Mondaybluez · 29/08/2025 21:16

ComtesseDeSpair · 29/08/2025 19:16

She just needs to remember that he shattered her heart and he doesn’t want to be with her, she’s better off out of a relationship with somebody who doesn’t love or care for her than trying to beg for him back. Trying to contact him when he clearly doesn’t want that is only going to prolong the pain and is also ultimately harassment. She needs to block his number and then delete it so she isn’t tempted.

Encourage her to then organise some distractions for the time she’d usually see him or spend time messaging him. Evening activities, seeing friends, just getting out of the house.

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She does and I'm trying to keep her busy...I think because he said its over and then back tracked it has given her false hope... I'm going to make sure she's busy tomorrow!

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