embarrassing question about s e x

[Allyco]

can I ask how old your baba was when you got back to proper sex? and, if you were b/feeding did you find you didn't really fancy it much, or am I just a sad specimen?

From talking to my friends, breastfeeding is a great contraceptive because none of them were remotely interested in sex for QUITE SOME TIME afterwards!

Also vaginal birth is a good contraceptive for the same reason....

agree with morning paper! 6 months before i felt that way inclined!

the hormones that you produce when b/fing actually inhibit the production of lubrication shall we say.....it's natures way of making sure you don't get preg again while still looking after littlie.that's why you don't have periods..no ovulation.
you are not weird at all...in fact you are reacting exactly as nature intended!!!

I'm an oddball - lasted almost three weeks without sex on both ds's. Breastfed both times. Still v. horny. DH was to the one with reservations!!

can't remember with dd1 but it was less than a week with dd2 we were both, ahem, gagging for it. which is unusual coz we're not usually iyswim

same as you nerdgirl. though i go right off sex in pregnancy (currently 15 weeks ) - looks like dp has a while to wait....

With my breastfed child I didn't have a partner, but with my first who couldn't beastfeed but was born vaginally with forceps and an episiotomy, we could hardly wait till the 4 weeks my doc told me. Very horny. I think I was just looking forward to having non-pregnant sex!

yee hah i am normal then

was beginning to worry girls

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I didn't feel 'normal' in that respect until DSs were around 18 mths

As DD is only 14 mths atm, suffice to say DH is being very patient and understanding

They were BFed btw.

About 6/7 months - after a v. painful ventouse delivery. Literally still couldn't sit down at 6 weeks. Surgery a year later to excise scar tissue - lovely. So NO WONDER I didn't feel like it! I think hormones, lack of sleep and (in our case anyway) far more arguements all contributed to my libido going on her holidays!

Mwahaha it took me 2 weeks and I breastfed and everything! I must admit it was slightly uncomfortable and icky though , it was my hubby who then went off it!

Did not breastfeed which from what I have read here is probably the reason I was extremely horny (and broody ) after about 3wks each time. Didn't last though, now I could go 3 months quite happily without it.

hi - i'm bottle feeding 16 wk old and tbh a decent nights kip is preferable to a night of passion! well, for me anyway, i think dh would opt for the night of passion or at least a 5 minute fumble!

It was about six weeks with dd, but did have to be cut so ... never breast fed with her. had ds just over week ago and already feeling horny (but sore) so another couple of weeks i reckon am breast feeding him. I think it depends. for about a year after dd's birth wasn't really up for it that often (always been highly sexed) but couldn't be arsed. Felt really horny through pregnancy with ds though. Maybe that after having baby - especially with lack of sleep, sex is not foremost in most mums minds!

Mine were about 4 weeks. I hope it's not much longer than that this time, cos I'm 29 weeks friday and already had to give up sex til after cos I'm too big and it's really uncomfortable.

5 weeks even though b/feeding

My ds2 is 5.5 months old and I am completely not interested in sex and my dh thinks I don't love him anymore as I push off his romantic intentions. It's so frustrating for both of us! I think I was the same with my ds1 and things did get better after I stopped bf him (at 9 months!). But so glad to hear that others are uncomfortable with sex while bf (obviously not at the same time ). Was beginning to think that I've turned into a cold fish.