Abusive XH (who i divorced a few years ago) asks at the last minute to have DC for a few days. I change my plans to accommodate this (for DCs benefit). We agree hand back day, time and location.
He then asks to change location to suit him. I am already going out of my way so I refuse, and explain why politely. Two days later he texts to "check" day time and location. I text back repeating what we've agreed. Two more days later the same question but framed as if I am "making" him do this. I grey rock back repeating what we've agreed. A further day and the same questions again, but terse/aggressive. I grey rock the same info again..."as we agreed yada yada". He has just texted again, all sweetness this time saying "just checking X time (the one we've already discussed and agreed multiple times) is ok can you let me know darling?" I have so far ignored it.
Is he losing the plot or is this just more headfuck? It is driving me insane
...which i imagine is the point...as he knows i can't not check messages when he has DC. I am already on antidepressants to try and manage CPTSD after 20 years with him, I just don't know how to deal with him.