Please advise. Have name-changed for this thread as I feel embarrassed posting this.
One of the girls in my friends circle has recently started showing a slight (not usual level) of interest in my husband. Last week we were all talking about going to this event and whether to go as a ladies night out or with spouses , at first she said she was too busy when it was just us girls, but later when the only other person and I who turned out to be going said we might as well see if our spouses could come too, she said she might try to come (with her DH ofc). She then messaged to ask if I had spoken to my DH and if he was coming. Strange, yes ?
I have enough life experience to not show any reaction or outward surprise in such situations. I would hope so by now at least, in my 40s and married 20 odd years.
I casually mentioned it to DH (prob should not have) , and he dismissed it as being unnecessarily suspicious when I asked him if she had been paying any extra attention to him , and also if he had to her (and if yes, to refrain , as it was not harmless and was bound to upset me even if he deemed it harmless).
When he said there's absolutely nothing going on re extra attention , and not to drop her from my circle based on 'imaginary' suspicion. I replied promptly 'oh it wont be her I drop , if I even catch the slightest whiff of any disrespect to me. It will be you'.
Did I handle this okay or should I have ignored completely