AIBU to be suspicious

[nbb89]

I’ll try and keep it brief. Been with my DP for 4 year. We don’t live together but spend time between both our homes. At the beginning of the year we had an argument that got very heated and split up for 6 weeks.
In those 6 weeks he took me off all his socials (fair enough), we had no contact whatsoever. Since getting back together he still hasn’t got me on his socials medias and there’s no sign of my existence in his home, photos have gone, things like toothbrush, hairbrush, cup ect have all gone. Even stuff I’ve bought him over the years has gone.
He said he boxed everything up, that’s fair enough but why is my existence in his life still in a box and why would he not want me back on his socials? I know it sounds ridiculous and childish but I can’t stop thinking he’s hiding me or something else.

@nbb89 it sounds like you were the one who ended it previously. It may just be that he doesn't yet trust you not to do the same next time you have an argument.

I mean, sure, it's possible that he's stringing you along and dating other people after realising during your split that he quite likes being able to play the field.

Equally, maybe splitting up for six weeks just made him realise that, although he missed you, he also liked having some space and a corner of his life that's solely his own? When I've had long-term relationships that weren't co-habiting ones, I didn't really want other people's stuff in my house all the time. Toiletries, fine. But not their stuff in my house - the whole point of having my own place was not having to share it.

Or, given that you had a very serious argument and split up, he's just being a bit more cautious about the relationship this time around. I think if I'd split up with someone for six weeks once already, I'd be wary of it happening again and I'd probably give a bit less of myself - and my space - second time around.

I don’t think he’s forgiven you for leaving him. So he’s gone back to the dating stage in his mind because he doesn’t trust you to stay.

It’s possible he could be seeing someone else. Or he might not, and just want to take things slowly to avoid you leaving again and him having to go around and pack your stuff up again.

He’s definitely keeping you at arms length for a reason. Could be lack of trust or biding his time while he finds someone else.
Unless you communicate properly about this it won’t improve.

i think he doesn’t trust you

Well, where you are now isn’t ’back to normal’. Sounds more like grumpy bastard / still doesn’t know if you’re committed so he won’t be - than suspicious. But whatever the reason, you need to fix it or end it, because this isn’t sustainable.