How often to see each other?

[Whatalife88]

How often is normal to see someone for dates? If you both live in same city and see each other once a fortnight or so is that ok? We've been on 5 dates. Is fortnightly normal? Too much? Too little?

Surely depends on your situation? I have my daughter 60% so hard to do every week but sometimes can be twice a week. And as long as the two of you are comfortable what does it matter what is normal or not?x

Does the frequency make you (both) happy or unhappy, that's all that matters.

There’s no such thing as normal - it’s what works for you and how it fits into your other commitments

I don't think there's a 'normal' - frequency should be what suits both people and fits in with work/family commitments. At the beginning of a relationship when you're excited to be getting to know each other, I would have thought you'd both be keen to see each other more than once a fortnight but it depends what else you have going on in your life.

That's why I'm asking. Perhaps I'm more keen? He says a lot of nice things over text and treats me well when we see each other but only wants to see me once a fortnight. He is free every week night evening and has his kids at weekends. I have my kids full time but their dad can/will look after them if I wanted to go out once a week.

Are you exclusive? I see my BF every Thursday and then every other weekend (so T/F/S night and all day Saturday, but when I wake up on Sunday I usually plan to go do my own thing, before going home).

we managed to get our free weekends aligned, which really helps.

I see my boyfriend one night a week minimum. Depending on childcare/work i might stay with him for a week or he may stay at mine for a couple night stretch. But thats only every other month. I struggle as I would jump straight into living together and just being a full time couple as thats what i know. Obviously i know thats not a good idea, as i have children to consider, luckily its at a distance where it helps slow things down. What does he say when you say youd like more dates/time together?

I’d get bored if I only saw them once a fortnight longer term not something I’d want to stick to, I’d rather not see anyone or someone that has more time, couldn’t be dealing with here and there.

That's it. I'd be happy with once a week even if it's only for a couple hours. I didnt know if I was unreasonable for feeling like I don't want to go super quick but I also don't want to drag it out by seeing someone twice a month.

Have you had the exclusive talk yet OP?

Twice a month isn’t really often enough to get to know someone. Does he plan dates or ask to see you? Does he know that you could be free more often? This needs to be discussed between you and from his response you’ll see whether he’s invested or not.