Do you think totally fine?

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Got into bed with partner.. he started trying it on for sex.. I clearly wasn't in the mood.. he said 'what's wrong?' I said 'I just have a lot on my mind' he said 'fine no problem can we just spoon instead?' I said 'yeah sure' so we spooned and he then kept on kissing me and stroking me.. touching me up.. eventually I got in the mood and we had sex...

Is this just kind of fine? Am I being silly to even question it? It's the first time I haven't been in the mood with him

Did you want him to do this?

Did you let him do it to keep the peace?

At first I just thought I would go along with it when he kept touching me up but I got into it so ...??

It depends on if you relaxed and got into the mood because you wanted to/he turned you on or if you lay there and gave in to keep the peace/avoid an argument or huffy man.

If you felt pressured and just wanted to get it over and done with so you could sleep, that warrants a conversation with your partner.

Thank you @PopThatBench🙏

I think if you'd have said no when he started stroking you and kissing you but carried on that would have been a problem, but I'd say it's something to be wary of at least

If you got into it and were happy to continue, that sounds fine to me. I've sometimes tried gently to persuade my husband to do this, when he wasn't initially that keen.
And vice versa.

It only becomes an issue if one party is very definite about not wanting to, and the other just persists.

It definitely isn't okay if your partner carries on when you're very clearly not up for it, and you say so.

They mustn't ever try to enter you when you don't want them to. That's rape.

What you've described isn't that, though.