How would you feel if your partner said

[Questioning01]

...As a joke, 'every time you repeat yourself i want to shoot you in the head'..??

If you live together who owns the property, how easy is it to get him to leave.

He’s still abusive. Time to make an exit plan.

In the real world many women are murdered by their violent husbands and partners

Some context : the repeating myself I think he was referring to my general chat.

He jokes a lot, so he definately said it in a joking
tone. He's also called me a 'messy f*' in a joking tone.

idk it's a very gray area,. I might not think much if his other behaviour didn't happen . That's why I question this... I just wondered what others think if their partner said that to them in a joking way they wouldn't think anything of it really...

This - I had an ex who would say similar and then when I’d get upset it was ALWAYS ‘it was just banter - lighten up’. Until the day I had a guy on the floor and he left me to it because he thought it would ‘just sort itself out’. I didn’t due but I did go to dr next day and they noted it in my records and said ambulance should have been called.

Take his comments seriously as he doesn’t sound as though he cares or respects you.

https://freedomprogramme.co.uk/docs/fp.pdf

Free living with the dominator book. Read it, understand his manipulation and has lighting techniques and get rid of him

It’s a casual way of reminding you that he has more control over you than you do over him. I doubt this is a phrase you would ever use with him, am I right? Jokes about guns and shooting aren’t funny or acceptable.

If an abuser tells his victim he wants to murder them, it's a death threat that should be reported to the police, and he should be removed from the property.
The abuser can pretend the threat is a 'joke', but jokes are funny.

It would upset me. People don't mean to repeat themselves and the feeling that I annoy someone that much would be the thing that upsets me.

Whoa. I don’t think I could be with someone who said that.

@Questioning01 never once, in all the years I've been with my DH, has he ever said anything violent, hateful or abusive nor has he ever passed anything off as a joke that most certainly is NOT a joke. That is the only yardstick I can measure this by, I'm afraid because I don't have experience of it and therefore find it extremely concerning, I can't imagine how unsafe I would feel if my DH said that to me. I'd take it very seriously indeed.

your partner must hate you and want to really harm you to say he wants to shoot you in the head, but passes it off as a joke, so he's turning the tables on you to make it seem like it's you who's the sensitive one who can't take a joke. It's called gaslighting and you need to be aware, he is doing this intentionally. He is controlling you, keeping you on edge, on tenterhooks,

please get yourself to safety, as soon as you possibly can.

I'd call the police and file for a restraining order.

If the OP was repeating herself 100 times a day, it still wouldn't justify a remark like that.