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Sleep and get up times so different to each other

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789vghu8 · 23/08/2025 23:28

DH and I have been married for 20 yrs with a 19 and 17 yr old. When kids were young DH found the sleep deprivation really hard so he used to stay in bed till mid morning and I used to be up every day at the crack of dawn.

He is now up at 630am every morning and I like to sleep in at weekends. He goes to bed at 10pm every night i try for 1130 in the week - this is having a huge impact on our sex life. I get no time to myself and I love the last couple of hours before I go to bed so I can watch what I want on tv or catch up on my phone etc. My teens love talking to me and sitting downstairs rather than their rooms ao we are not parents of teens that we never see.

We try to get out together at weekends but DH likes to be up and out the house by 730am and home by lunchtime!! Why?

I love easy lazy mornings he hates them.

Not sure where we go from here. Sex life is virtually non existent as kids are up and about till early hours at the weekends (easier in week in term time than holidays) but i still love time on my own. My DH works late shift so he doesn't start work till midday so he has 2 hours on his on his own every day.

I crave my own time but I do find it really hard to have time to myself and spend time with him as our routines are do different. He says I need to choose what is more important - spending time with him or sleeping in - he refuses to compromise my way though .

OP posts:
Sevenwondersofthewoo · 23/08/2025 23:46

So no compromise on either side

surely you meet in the middle a few times week.

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